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indianroads

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I'm trying to figure out how to ask for help. I'm lonely and miserable, but I have no idea how to move out of my introverted habits. Everything hurts.
Being an introvert is a secret I keep.
Growing up I was extremely quiet, and didn't like meeting new people or (heaven forbid) speaking before a group. In third grade I had a teacher that forced me to stand in before the class and read reports, do math, and explain why I made an error. She did this because she thought it would bring me out of my shell - it had the opposite effect. One of the very few good things my father did for me was during a parent / teacher conference, when the teacher was going off on how I was too quiet, my father told her that 'when my son has something to say, people will listen'.
I've overcome much of my introversion through the years as I've gained confidence in my self and my abilities, this mostly came from pretending to be self assured when what I was feeling was the exact opposite. It's painfully hard, I get it, but the more you put yourself out there, the easier it gets. In my heart though, I remain that shy little kid.
 

Theglasshouse

WF Veterans
Is it just me, but I don't appreciate when the humor or the joke is made about me? You see I am the serious type and get easily offended. For consolation, I won't mention why I was a tad bit offended. But once thing we tend to agree as humans is that two wrongs don't make a right. The person in question knows I got offended earlier by a previous experience. I won't spill the beans since it is not worth the drama, and we can become better people.
 

Mark Twain't

Staff member
Board Moderator
I have a week off at the end of the month and I'm currently updating the process notes for the guy who'll be covering my job that week.

I've been writing process notes for the last 30 years and it just occurred to me. Does this mean I've actually been a writer all this time? :oops:
 

vranger

Staff member
Supervisor
Is it just me, but I don't appreciate when the humor or the joke is made about me? You see I am the serious type and get easily offended. For consolation, I won't mention why I was a tad bit offended. But once thing we tend to agree as humans is that two wrongs don't make a right. The person in question knows I got offended earlier by a previous experience. I won't spill the beans since it is not worth the drama, and we can become better people.
I suppose it depends. One can generally tell if the remark is in good humor or meanness/spiteful. I come up with a lot of odd ideas (like using a nail gun to more efficiently apply an acupuncture treatment). I suppose since I pepper the people around me with these jokes, it's only fair they be allowed to make comments about my weird ideas. So if my friend says, "Jim, you're strange", he's only being truthful. ;-)
 

Matchu

Senior Member
I jumped in the sea off the rocks at north bay, high tide. That might be my last swim of the year? The usual profound-type chat, a fisherman on his rock:

'You must be fff-in mad...you wouldn't catch me swimmin...'

'Have you catch fish?' I said

'Bass, mackerel...'

Really cute. On other side, courting couple on their rock. I could have stayed among them all, chatted more, but bashful, cold in the nude.
 

Theglasshouse

WF Veterans
Here's the thing vranger. I will most likely have a difference of opinion. The maxim for me is this: Treat others as you would treat yourself (respect others as you would knowingly want others to respect or treat yourself as). In this case I don't know where the provocation came from for the person to resort to this behavior. People are also contradictory in their standards without knowing it. They may feel sympathy for a certain group of people. But treating others poorly reflects on the human spectrum of behavior. If someone calls you weird would you like for them to continue this abuse without end? At some point a person needs to realize this behavior is harmful. Abuse can come in many forms, mental abuse, child abuse, spousal abuse. In my case I take medication to regulate my mood disorder. People don't realize the worse people are treated the more they tend to go to emotionally cope less well. I acquired my sickness for one of these reasons being in a bad school environment. I have talked to professional psychiatrists. There is nothing wrong with being weird. If a person is weird it is because of how they grew up. They are victims. The circumstances that molded their personality. No one should interrupt the natural cycle of life. If you will the abuse in my case left a psychosis that is blocked by my medication. I don't talk about it often. But what you tend to remember as a kid you remember the rest of your life. Sometimes people want to look normal. But the normal thing is to be an iconoclast due to the extraordinary circumstances. Not every case is the same. If you had a person give an insult that they are weird as people tend to do. It leaves a mark in the brain (I mean we become depressed). Which will have behavioral consequences. Psychologists if they do not help are the problem. In my school my problems were treated with indifference. The forum (this one especially is a good one but not others because of ignorance) is such a good community that fosters no hostility. It's like a school. We ought to protect the weak who don't do so well emotionally. Children are in an innocent age. They don't know what it means to be treated badly. My experience is not unique. Many people don't articulate what they are thinking. So if someone is called weird it doesn't reflect the dynamics of what happens to people. We want to live calm peaceful lives. There are many definitions of weird as well. Weird could be bad or good. Weird is behavior that people deem unacceptable in some cases. In which two definitions are presented. There are perfectly normal people like my aunt who get called weird because people want to offend. She is married. I remember one day that she complained she did not like it when people called her a certain way. I remember in school I was also rejected to work in a group because I was not considered white (in the United States). I was in kindergarten. They sent me to the psychologist. I wanted to be friends with the other kids. Getting called weird also sends messages of rejection or being different because of skin color. That's a strong opinion I hold. Because of bullying all sorts of mental diseases can become real. Because people who inherit mental disease not everyone will react the same way. I thought I could ignore all insults given to me in my life, but I was wrong. It takes away your sense of happiness. Society's power structure shows flaws because it doesn't help people who are not considered healthy and normal. When I was in school the country didn't have many hospitals that had the qualified doctors. Where I am from there is only one addiction specialist and I know him. He is also my doctor for schizoaffective disorder. Not to mention people should respect other people for their differences. I, for one, had no doctors to help me. How you treat others means how healthy the person in turn will develop from childhood to adult.

It doesn't cost anyone anything to not insult people on a consistent basis. One insult adds after another like arithmetic.
 
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vranger

Staff member
Supervisor
Here's the thing vranger. I will most likely have a difference of opinion.
Well, we have difference circumstances. There is a difference if something is meant out of meanness or not, and at this point in life I can tell the difference pretty easily. Kidding happens, and the reason behind the kidding makes a difference. There IS such a thing as playful or good-natured kidding. And yes, my friend can call me weird or strange all day long. It doesn't bother me, and it isn't meant to.

It may sound like an odd reason to have been singled out, but in school, as one of the 'smart kids', I took a lot of flak. I learned to ignore it ... "Consider the source" ... as they say. If something actually bothered me, I gave back as good (or better) than I got, and I still do. I've always been feisty and tenacious.
 

Theglasshouse

WF Veterans
Trust me when there are many people who refuse to make the needed amount of time for walking. There seems to be a culture that creates a mindset when young that I won't ever have health problems because I am much younger, skinnier than most, eat well, eat little, know how to eat without ever having taken the nutritionist seriously, don't think it helps with depression. This mentality is to be found in workaholics, people who need to see the doctor for both this and eating well. It is also found in people who assume and hold some myths on how to stay healthy. Trust me preventative medicine is the best sort of treatment. But to do this you need willpower which people with schizoaffective disorder lack in a day full of stress. Which changes their mood. It wasn't until my father got coronary heart disease that he resisted dieting according to a nutritionist to prevent clogging of the arteries. Not to mention he gets bored from exercise. It's the most common excuse to not exercise according to Harvard 's health newsletter. I read the free health newsletter by email. It gives tips on common problems and by the looks of it diseases some of which can be treated or prevented. I'd play music or watch a short series I like when I exercise.

Fast food is everywhere and people eat it and get fat because they don't want to cook. I was in that "life" stage. Poor lifestyle choices lead to an early grave.
 
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Turnbull

Senior Member
Trust me when there are many people who refuse to make the needed amount of time for walking. There seems to be a culture that creates a mindset when young that I won't ever have health problems because I am much younger, skinnier than most, eat well, eat little, know how to eat without ever having taken the nutritionist seriously, don't think it helps with depression. This mentality is to be found in workaholics, people who need to see the doctor for both this and eating well. It is also found in people who assume and hold some myths on how to stay healthy. Trust me preventative medicine is the best sort of treatment. But to do this you need willpower which people with schizoaffective disorder lack in a day full of stress. Which changes their mood. It wasn't until my father got coronary heart disease that he resisted dieting according to a nutritionist to prevent clogging of the arteries. Not to mention he gets bored from exercise. It's the most common excuse to not exercise according to Harvard 's health newsletter. I read the free health newsletter by email. It gives tips on common problems and by the looks of it diseases some of which can be treated or prevented. I'd play music or watch a short series I like when I exercise.

Fast food is everywhere and people eat it and get fat because they don't want to cook. I was in that "life" stage. Poor lifestyle choices lead to an early grave.
That is very true, and I don't think it just applies to weight gain. I didn't take good enough care of my legs, so I ended up with some foot/leg problems. I'm coming out of them now, but yeah, it's a thing.

Today I also got out of the hospital for hiatal hernia surgery, but I'm pretty sure that I was born with the issue. The good news is, now that I'm on a forced liquid diet, I'm going to be losing a ton of weight.
 

Firemajic

Poetry Mentor
Staff member
Senior Mentor
Happy birthday, dear Ollie! I hope this new year is one of your best ones yet!
Love you bunches... your far away friend... Julia... AKA Firemajic...
 

Turnbull

Senior Member
I've gotten addicted to Tzuyang's mokbang videos -- I know it's technically spelled "mukbang" but since the Korean sound is more like an o than a u, mokbang makes more sense.
 
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