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Use of pronouns in trans coming out plotline (1 Viewer)

Hello!

I recently encountered a problem of concept in that I'm not sure of the best way I can tackle the pronoun usage for one of my trans characters. She is a trans girl, but she doesn't come out as trans until partway through the narrative. My problem is that I'm not sure what pronouns to use before this point in the plot... naturally I would use he/him because she's not yet known to be trans (and she is not the protagonist, the narrative doesn't follow her thoughts) but something about this feels wrong. Is this misgendering, even if she and the readers don't know of her trans identity yet? Gaaahhh! Any opinions on this would be welcomed. I want to treat this character with the respect she and her identity deserves...
 

Taylor

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Hello!

My problem is that I'm not sure what pronouns to use before this point in the plot... naturally I would use he/him because she's not yet known to be trans (and she is not the protagonist, the narrative doesn't follow her thoughts) but something about this feels wrong. Is this misgendering, even if she and the readers don't know of her trans identity yet?
I think that since you are not following her thoughts, it should be ok to use he/him until she reveals her real gender. You need to tell the story from the viewpoint of those around her. Not how she feels in her own mind. You could write a very sensitive scene when she chooses to come out and then switch to she/her.
 
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Phil Istine

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Hello!

I recently encountered a problem of concept in that I'm not sure of the best way I can tackle the pronoun usage for one of my trans characters. She is a trans girl, but she doesn't come out as trans until partway through the narrative. My problem is that I'm not sure what pronouns to use before this point in the plot... naturally I would use he/him because she's not yet known to be trans (and she is not the protagonist, the narrative doesn't follow her thoughts) but something about this feels wrong. Is this misgendering, even if she and the readers don't know of her trans identity yet? Gaaahhh! Any opinions on this would be welcomed. I want to treat this character with the respect she and her identity deserves...
My first thought is to use male pronouns until the coming out occurs. If you don't, it could be a spoiler.
 
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