Been reading most of the day yesterday.
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Yes, it is. I bought it from...can't remember if it was Alibris, maybe? A little while ago now. I agree about it being somewhat basic but sometimes that's what I need. The book that's beside it, Story (McKee) is much more in-depth.Is that Dean Koontz book yours (writing popular fiction)? That goes for 300 dollars. I remember selling mine for 80 when I had it. I thought the advice was basic at the time. It's hyped by collectors I am convinced by own my experience.
Maybe because you fell hard, it was putting my hand out to save myself dislocated my arm, and like someone said it is a classic way yo break a wrist. I have an appointment with the physio today to see about having the sling off. YAY !!It’s too early to tell, I’m awake but not up yet. Enjoying the quiet and pain free.
Yesterday though, was a banner day! Began and finished some overdue chores early, completed a poem I’d been working on for a week thinking it needed to be submitted today.....it’s next Monday, and... was delighted, grateful and surprised I wasn’t sore, as I had fallen on my right side the day before. Yup, fell like a ton of pavers. Nothing broken. A couple hours afterwards, I did a light workout as to not tighten up, I think that helped... and 600 mgs of Ibuprofen. Yea, so waking up yesterday was a nice surprise like today, but then, I haven’t tried to stand up yet either, here goes....
Sorry to hear about your mother - that can be tough. Hang on, you'll figure it out.The weekend knocked me out of writing again (I need to come up with some sort of strategy for that) and I'm finally on Tuesday getting back to forcing myself into writing a few random bits. Yesterday was recovery from being with my narcissistic mother, digging into resources for how to handle relationships with narcissistic people.
The menu for this evening. Salmon, roasted asparagus, cauliflower au gratin, and possibly these macaroon brownies that I found a recipe for.
A friend gave me duck eggs over the weekend. Anyone familiar with using these and any favorite recipes?
Thanks, that does seem to be the drift of the strategies I can find (and the only thing that worked on long-time bullies in school, too) is to keep my own equanimity and just let the other person act out. If it was only anger I kinda have that one figured out. Some of the other tactics are less obvious and have very deep roots and automatic brain pathways that cause knee-jerk reacting...usually a reaction of angry compliance. Sounds stupid but only because it is.Sorry to hear about your mother - that can be tough. Hang on, you'll figure it out.
Back in the 80's I was working horrendous hours designing PC's and workstations for Olivetti. I had a horrible boss that screamed at everyone and put us all under tremendous pressure. Although he's not like your narcissistic mother, I learned to compartmentalize with him and not really care about his ranting and raving. If he made unreasonable demands, I'd just say no. He would go ballistic, and I'd just lean back and watch - his crazy upset was in HIM, not me. I guess what I'm saying is that difficult people are easier to deal with you you stop caring about their drama.
Something that helped me, although won't work for everyone, is figuring out the why behind another's behavior. For example, when I was little I can remember nights when everyone else had left the dinner table, but there I sat with the dreaded broccoli still on my plate. My dad insisted I had to eat everything before I could leave the table and I hated him for that rule.Thanks, that does seem to be the drift of the strategies I can find (and the only thing that worked on long-time bullies in school, too) is to keep my own equanimity and just let the other person act out. If it was only anger I kinda have that one figured out. Some of the other tactics are less obvious and have very deep roots and automatic brain pathways that cause knee-jerk reacting...usually a reaction of angry compliance. Sounds stupid but only because it is.
I know the why of it, unfortunately it's done generationally in my family so it's the eldest daughter of each generation who's raised to be as close to an obedient automaton as possible. Understanding has done a lot for me to know how to approach this. Unfortunately, it takes more work to overcome the automatic brain wiring.Ginny, your mom sounds a lot like my mom was. I had to learn to distance myself from her, emotionally. That was very hard for me to do. But it was the only way I could function as my own person and deal with her controlling nature. Like Sue, I tried to understand what had made her this way, but I still don't really know. Stepping back and seeing loved ones through clear eyes is nigh on impossible to do without anger and resentment clouding your vision. I can't say I've mastered that trick.