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Adultery; (1 Viewer)

Kevin

WF Veterans
marriage is not a solution for lack o' intercourse. :smile: Quite the opposite, in fact.
and yet we wonder how things can happen. Bet you never thought your vows were those of a monk.
 

Phil Istine

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Adult and adultery, as words, come from similar sounding but distinct Latin roots, one meaning to grow and the other to corrupt. Adultery can be single or double, depending on how many engagers are married.

That does make sense when I consider the word "adulterated".
 

MamaStrong

Senior Member
I try not to judge those who commit adultery, because it's really not my place. I believe in God and the principal that one day those who sin (all of us) will have to recount all of our sins in order to get into heaven. Someone mentioned that it should be a crime. IMO it is. You're just not taken to the NYC courthouse before a judge and sentenced to a harsh penalty. We'll never know what our penalty will be until the time comes to admit our faults. Of course, this is all just my opinion.

On the other hand: if my husband wasn't happy enough with me, and he felt he needed to go sleep with someone else or any other form of cheating, I would hope he'd divorce me first. Ain't nobody got time for that.
 

Blade

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WF Veterans
On the other hand: if my husband wasn't happy enough with me, and he felt he needed to go sleep with someone else or any other form of cheating, I would hope he'd divorce me first. Ain't nobody got time for that.

But then it would not be adultery. :cower: The thing is that people go on their merry way without putting their own house in order first.](*,)
 

MamaStrong

Senior Member
But then it would not be adultery. :cower: The thing is that people go on their merry way without putting their own house in order first.](*,)

Oh I know. If he left me first, divorced, it wouldn't be adultery. Which I guess is my point. There is NO reason for Adultery. At all. Not happy, leave. Well, try to work it out first, but sometimes that doesn't work. So leave.
 

dither

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WF Veterans
Mamastrong,
leaving isn't always so straight forward.

If only it were possible to switch off one's libido, or put it on hold for a while. Would make life so much happier i reckon.
 

Blade

Creative Area Specialist (Fiction)
WF Veterans
Oh I know. If he left me first, divorced, it wouldn't be adultery. Which I guess is my point. There is NO reason for Adultery. At all. Not happy, leave. Well, try to work it out first, but sometimes that doesn't work. So leave.

:sunny: It is the people that don't see it that way who are the problem.:livid:

Mamastrong,
leaving isn't always so straight forward.

It will be if I am involved. :ChainGunSmiley:
 

Bruno Spatola

Senior Member
I feel adultery is always understandable, but rarely justifiable. My only opinion on it, outside of case-by-case analyses.
 

Blade

Creative Area Specialist (Fiction)
WF Veterans
I feel adultery is always understandable, but rarely justifiable. My only opinion on it, outside of case-by-case analyses.

:indecisiveness:You can think about it from both sides but you can only do either/or.:scratch:
 

Kevin

WF Veterans
leaving isn't always so straight forward.
Kids... the division (or loss) of all of one's assets... after attorney fees, court fees... alimony, palimony, child support.
 

ppsage

WF Veterans
There are a lot of examples in literature and history of long-term and successful adulteries. In some religious contexts (sibling marriage in ancient Egypt comes to mind) the actual marriage seems to entail adulterous relationships. In these contexts adultery does seem to have a basically aristocratic bent. In class situations where marriage is decidedly more than romantic, where it is often family duty, adultery ends up with a sort of different spin, even if it's still a mortal sin. History has a lot of famous bastards, in these known cases it is generally the father who's adulterous. Apparently when it's the mother, the child's birth circumstances are often kept incognito. I'm assuming that many, many modern adulteries are also, in their own way, successful.
 

dale

Senior Member
adultery makes for good horror and thriller stories. i like stephen king's "secret window". johhny depp plays that role well in the movie.
 

InstituteMan

WF Veterans
I've known couples who married for reasons other than passion where one or both turned a blind eye to the other's dalliances. Who am I to judge if they're happy? I have a friend who I am about 90% sure goes to swingers clubs with his totally on-board with it wife. Is it adultery if they do it together?

People are free to sort their relationships out themselves. If I don't like how someone else's marriage looks, then I can be glad it's not mine.

I'm happy with InstituteWoman. That doesn't mean I don't have some libidinous desires to get busy with other women, it just means (for our marriage) that I don't. I'm also pretty sure that if one of us slipped, we could get by it. That works for us. It doesn't have to work for anyone else.
 

shadowwalker

WF Veterans
There's a difference between an open marriage and adultery. In an open marriage, both partners understand and agree to having other partners, under various circumstances. An adulterous affair means one is hiding things from the other, breaking the agreement they made to be monogamous.
 

ppsage

WF Veterans
The statutes I've reviewed make no provision for permission and neither do the definitions. It's adultery for sure if the woman is married, usually if the man is, nothing mentioned about same sex adultery. Doesn't matter who knows or agrees.
 

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