I like this sentence in particular.
I agree with a majority of your comments, and I also think that very young children's reading should be monitored, but sometimes I think rather than removing the "offensive" material all together, use it as a tool to teach was has been, but is no longer tolerated. Of course, that could be cumbersome, to determine whether every book a child picks up is either to be read independently, or needs supervision. I suppose providing books that reflect inclusion and kindness and equality is better than the above. I worry about our children - the world is so busy now, so many issues to act on, have an opinion about and it's all visible. People behaving badly, being unkind to others - on the news every night.
Quite awhile ago, I had a neighbor who had two little boys, who she refused to allow any negativity into their lives. They watched no news, no TV that was controversial, no books that raised questions about their environment or other people. Adults in their presence could only be joyful and optimistic, so we also had to monitor our conversations. I thought the method totally unrealistic, and wondered what they would be like when they were older and faced with challenges or difficult choices, if they only saw their world through rose-colored glasses.
Some years after that, however, my youngest daughter and I were watching a documentary on Rosa Parks. Heidi was about ten at the time, and she was so terribly upset that anyone was treated the way the black people in the film were treated. She literally cried, because she never knew this kind of behavior existed. I consoled her, of course, but realized how protective we had been with our children, not taking the time to talk to them about issues that would one day be important as adults, that they never treat anyone - of any color - in a way that was disrespectful. We corrected that immediately and did such a good job that when Heidi was in high school and started dating, she brought home a boy of color without ever telling us. When I asked her later why she didn't mention it, she said "He's cute. I thought that was all I needed to say." I was proud of her, and all my kids. They are all intolerant of intolerance.

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