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How different are you and your sister(s) in personality?
I feel that we're very different, but when people meet us they note the similarities immediately!
What are the differences and similarities?
All strong-willed, artistic, intense to varying degrees. We are all passionate and have strong opinions, but that can be expressed in different ways. Me and my younger sister closest in age (T.) are both more loud about what we think; my older sister (A.) isn't as noisy but she can still be forceful. I approach things more from intuition supported by reason and A. approaches more from feeling and relationship.
Like I said, we're all artistic, but with different focuses that reflect our personalities: (A. - beauty, character-driven narrative; me - poetry, weirdness, all kinds of different forms; T. - music, realism, video editing; C. - pro-level visual art/manga; J. - comics, personal/emotion-driven story; S. - making stuff with her hands, symbolism; t. - animation, strong evocative line)
And we all express femininity in different ways. Even just among the three oldest, T. has this wild, bubbly expression of joy (think MPDG trope without the problematic parts), and A. is more regal, noble, queenly.
We're all smart. Intellectual debate and discussion is just part of our family culture, so even the sisters who don't participate as much can come off to their friends as someone who really knows how to defend their beliefs and has strong ideas about politics/art/anything.
What is the age difference between you and your sister(s) and how does it impact your relationship?
Mostly intervals of approximately 2 years, except T. and J. are four years apart (boy in between), and C. and J. are around the same age. I think being close in age means we move through life as a group, but having such a big family means that will sometimes happen in chunks. So me and A. and the oldest boy all had our anime phase together, our video game phase together, etc.
Do you get along well with your sister(s)?
Why yes or why not?
Mostly yes. We all believe in Jesus, which makes any other disagreement less important. We pray for each other and for our family. Sometimes when we're moving forward spiritually they'll be some strife/drama but we'll come out on the other side closer. I know this may sound crazy, but my family has experienced quite a bit of actual demonic attack, so when you've faced that together you kind of have to be more unified!
How much of stereotypes do you fit in as oldest, middle or youngest child?
I'm not really familiar with those stereotypes, and I'm not sure how they'd apply to such a big family! I'm in the middle of the first three sisters. According to Google middle children are social butterflies, peacekeepers, and fairness-obsessed. I'm definitely fairness-obsessed, but I wonder if that just comes from my general intensity about moral principles (I remember one time I was playing capture the flag with my brother's friends and they got into our territory by pretending to surrender - a false flag operation, essentially - and I unironically accused them of committing a war crime). I'd say T. is more of a social butterfly than me, but I'm more extroverted than her, because I think she recharges alone. I'm kind of a peacekeeper but justice is more important to me than peace, lol.
Did you ever feel like living in the shadow of your sister(s)?
No. We're all very distinctive. We're all talented. People definitively think of us as a family (oh, you're __'s sister/daughter/etc.) and I'm so good with that because I'm so proud of my family.
Did you ever compete with your sister(s)?
Of course. We're competitive surrounding art, I think. Secretly I think we all want to be the best artist/writer/musician/whatever. But we also support each other, so...? My entire family is also super competitive with board games and card games. We can never play with friends we invite over because they always get really freaked out by how intense it gets!
Was there ever any jealousy between you and your sister(s)?
I don't know. Not to a super unhealthy extent. I think I was jealous of T. for a while because she had written way better songs than I had. But the thing is, we talk about it, so it doesn't fester into something bad. It's just like, "I wish I was as good at X as you!"
Have you ever been compared to your sister(s)?
Kind of. My parents never did. But people will be like, "I can see how you guys are sisters!" or "Your whole family is really weird."
How is your (individual) relationship with your sister(s)?
All very good. I am the only one out of the house so when I visit it's a big deal, lol.
I'm really close to the two closest in age (A. and T.), because we shared rooms as kids and had most of the same experiences. A. and I are 'accountability partners' (discipleship term, means we confess our faults to each other and pray for each other and keep each other accountable to the standards we set for ourselves). A. is also the only one I fight with sometimes because we process together. T. and I love being weird together. I also embarrass both of them in public.
With J. and C. it's like a cross between an adult/adult and an adult/child relationship, because they're still young teenagers. I try to give them advice and help them grow, but we also connect on a semi-peer level. J. and I can talk for a long time about pretty much anything and we are also both very physically affectionate, so a lot of hugs! I watch anime with C. sometimes and we draw together.
S. and t. are very much my little sisters. I have strong memories of them as babies still, so it's so weird that they're now growing up. t. and I have some artistic similarities, and we're both daydreamers. I'm in a good place to be able to advise t. because we have some of the same struggles that may seem unusual but to us are very normal. S. and I also like to talk, and S. is the younger sister who most likes to participate in the older kids' debates!
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