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  1. #571
    I was diagnosed with PTSD five-months ago and my life has been hell ever since. I am currently out of work because the panic attacks were too strong and the depression too demotivating. I'm really trying to delve deep into writing at this dark period of my life, and surprisingly it's the only thing really that's brought me any solace. I am grateful for this community.
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  2. #572
    You'll manage. Relaxation is needed sometimes to keep our brains healthy. Writing does have a positive effect for depression. When someone enjoys what they do it can be considered therapy. My doctor considers what I do occupational therapy. Heck if I become sick of a disease, I promise to do anything to recover my mood such as playing videogames. They have a place in society underneath indulgence can have its healing effects. Too much of is bad supposedly,but I believe its virtues in this case. So having fun is good for depression. It gets rid of the stress and depression. They told me I get bored often and that I needed hobbies to make up for it. A job may be stressful and I understand maybe a few years without a job may be considered a positive thing. Do something you enjoy doing and it improves your mood. I also suffer from panic attacks but they are under control. Without a doubt mental disease is crippling but there are coping mechanisms. It may not appear obvious until someone gives some validation to an advice. Fun is vital to life. It keeps people out of depression. It may be in some cases irresponsible. But even adults can have their fun because of changes in what a person needs to succeed at life. Makes me think that boredom and fun would be a way to balance life. From responsibility and of course therapy helps. I didn't take that route. But if people who feel no one understands them need therapy as the saying goes without needing to be said no one person is an island. We need other people. Some people must address their issues with others. Their problems that are off emotional needs that are present in a person. Don't forget to exercise to treat and give your brain much needed rest from stress.

    From someone who specializes in cbt (cognitive behavior therapy) posted from quora as the source. I thought I'd share:

    There is a phrase in CBT, “We are responsible for our responses.” A source(s) of depression can be varied and, as habitual humans, we tend to repeat the cycle of “feelings, thoughts, behaviors, consequences” until doing so is more painful than changing. Also, people who are depressed will find their thinking to be somewhat altered, focusing more on problems than on solutions.Do we create all depression? No, but if people learned, early on, the seeming mysteries behind why we do what we do, they might be better equipped to recognize (or at least acknowledge when someone else recognizes) depressive patterns in their early stages.
    Of course, when substance abuse/dependence is involved, a wildly apparent consequence often becomes a growing focus on the substance(s) being used. This focus is a kind of tunnel vision in which interests outside the substance use slowly/quickly begins to fade, the goal shifting from other life dreams to trying to recapture that first high. Depression, due to the natural consequences of ignoring support systems and place such a narrow focus on the substance use and because of chemical changes that can occur within the brain (depending on the substance[s] being used, the amount and the frequency of use), is a natural consequence of such bodily abuse.
    So, as humans, we can be caught in a genetic-type depression, situations from which we believe we cannot escape, promulgate our own unique depressive formula based on our feelings, thoughts, actions and consequences, ignore the accountability we all need or exist in situations difficult to accept but outside our control to change.
    Sounds depressing, right? It is what we all do on some levels, depending on our situations. Our choices to maintain equilibrium in our lives and successfully cope with our depressive moods and/or situations are our responsibility. We can most often (but not always) choose to react in a productive way.
    Unfortunately, the gigantic increase in substance use is increasing the situations which tend to spin out of control for all involved (by their choice or not).
    source: https://www.quora.com/Why-do-a-lot-o...own-depression
    Last edited by Theglasshouse; October 2nd, 2019 at 04:08 AM.
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  3. #573
    so incoming report from me. I have steadily been increasing in mood for the last week... and will be increasing in mood for the next three to four... So I have set myself too priorities.. finish the next to last story in truly and finish the first story in fme.... I wile be being hypo manic for the second and first week of next month??? I know because of my measured time for each part of my mood cycle... I can do this.. I know I can
    striding and swagering rootlessness with out end the precious flow of life.

  4. #574
    Keep writing confidence is key. To improve your writing you could use some guidance from a mentor somewhere where you live. I know for english you could use lots of feedback and on writing stories. Its unfortunate that many of us give unqualified advice. When I try to help its with the limited knowledge I possess. This creates a dilemma since if I give bad advice its wasted time and money. On writing I plan to improve by studying books with creative writing exercises.

    I for instance think and believe a writer needs to know where to get their ideas. Writer's block I consider a myth once I discovered the advice to begin with an anecdote from real life.

    That's where the germ of an idea for a story can come from. I got this advice from a teacher in a cretive writing program. Then I decided I am a fan of film theory. Linda anderson wrote a book called the 21st century screen writer. You can get ideas using her method of brainstorming a premise.

    Speaking of premises I still haven't bought John trunby's book because I owned it on kindle. That was a mistake. The book I wish I had in hand because it has excerises.

    For learning english a book that self teaches you how to write perfect grammar hopefully has excercises.

    Right now I have and own 3 grammar books or more. I think when I am doing nothing I will take a concept and google the internet to practice the ideas from the book. I might even join a forum with a sole focus on grammar.

    I'll recommend some here on the forum in the mental support thread (in 5 days). Since I am on a budget I mentioned the ones I personally think will help. That is with coming up with ideas and plot. 5 days from now since I need to have a good price to afford these for myself. The ones I mentioned I plan to buy brand new.

    For the english I notice you need to improve on spelling. As for me my most glaring errors are diction and sentence structure. Research and ask a librarian to recommend books on grammar and spelling for your areas you need improvement on is my advice. Even join a forum on grammar to do practice excercises, and go to one to get feedback on your writing. That's is my suggestion.
    I would follow as in believe in the words of good moral leaders. Rather than the beliefs of oneself.
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  5. #575
    Quote Originally Posted by kunox View Post
    so incoming report from me. I have steadily been increasing in mood for the last week... and will be increasing in mood for the next three to four... So I have set myself too priorities.. finish the next to last story in truly and finish the first story in fme.... I wile be being hypo manic for the second and first week of next month??? I know because of my measured time for each part of my mood cycle... I can do this.. I know I can
    Writing has been the only activity boosting my mood lately.
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  6. #576
    So I have been looking for the ideal software for a good while since nothing seems to have solved my writing problems. Looks like my plan to buy books has been changed. I tried a free trial and I am sold that it is what I need which is a program by premier literacy. I have 2 months of having saved up money. I just need to wait for november the 25th. I then could purchase the program of assitive technology and for 10 dollars I could have a backup cd delivered to me.

    Assistive Technology in Special Education, 2E: Resources for Education, Intervention, and Rehabilitation 2nd Edition (can be looked on the amazon webpage but saves a lot of money rather than needing to go to a specialist).
    This is very good book and led me to find out more about a program. For my budget it is what I need. There's a free trial availible. There is a preview of the book on google, and there is a small preview on amazon's website. It's the best book I have come across on disabilities that I have read. I discovered the below program thanks to reading the book online on the google books preview webpage. She is very qualified to have written the book.

    http://www.premierliteracy.net/default

    I am posting it here incase anyone with disabilities wants to give it a try. But if anyone saves enough money it could help with the dyslexia or dsygraphia or disbailities. The book shows there are more options. Technology has advanced a lot. So this means another month without writing a story but at least it is for a good cause since I am trying to afford a program.

    I also own a microphone. Not sure how useful it is for dysgraphia. I will try to get my money back by selling it. Which I haven't used much since I didn't find it useful. Dragon speaking software is not the best writing solution for writing stories.
    However it is advertised as a cure all for dysgraphia.

    I recommend anyone use the talking word processor and talk pointer if disabled just like me (once you use the demo product that has both the talking pointer and talking word processor). I am more than willing to post in discussions since I can't workshop my own stories just yet. Not until november arrives can I write what I would like or want.

    I can it seems write a short story without many mistakes. As for a novel it would take a lot of effort and time to correct since writing in english can be difficult with dysgraphia. But it seems I can check my work independently. It does the same thing as claroread but much better (hover to speak the text). Not to mention it has some of kurzaweil's feautures which costs about 1400 dollars. It reads sentences and pargraphs. Not to mention it focuses on one sentence in the document.

    I worked on something that looks error free by reading it outloud. I could read it with my own voice and I notice there are no mistakes. One sentence follows the next since it reads the whole paragraph multiple times.
    Last edited by Theglasshouse; October 26th, 2019 at 03:54 PM.
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    The most difficult thing for a writer to comprehend is to experience silence, so speak up. (quoted from a member)

  7. #577
    For the first time in a long time, I sat down and worked on a piece that has been flitting around in my brain for the last couple of weeks. The narrator of the pieces is much closer to reality than is usually found in my work. Familiar faces and masks, but they are stemming from the source code.

    From a psychological standpoint I know what it means, and I know it is constructive, but I wonder if I am skating too close and saying too much without saying anything, if that makes any sense...because I usually don't talk about things like this. Usually I am able to dissociate and let go, but with this particular sequence I have not been able to do that. My fourth wall is thinner than I would like it to be, but to dissociate as completely from it as I can usually do would have altered the tone of the work and that I think would have bothered me because it would have been an imitation instead of the honest emotions...

    It comes down to trying to explain how the creative process in an ASD/ADHD brain works. The process of fighting to find a muse that has gone missing in a world that is determined to break you. I have spent my entire life listening to the world tell me that my labels are who I am and not mere an inherent part of my biological make up. They are not an excuse or a weakness, they are part and parcel of my personality and tools when it comes to things like my writing and my ability to compartmentalise. To lose that ability, to be stuck with that hollowness that is so alien it is frightening. Emotion I can deal with and wield to my advantage, apathy is a place I have to fight my way out of. I needed to find a quasar in an ink jar.

    I've also been indulging my worst vise...book binging. Even when there are a hundred other things I could do, even if the weather has been nice, I've had my nose and consciousness buried in a book. Introverting to the extreme. Not an endearing character trait.

    - D.
    Last edited by Darkkin; October 26th, 2019 at 04:05 AM.


  8. #578
    Reading short stories help with my attention span. I prefer it to reading novels for inspiration for writing fiction. As someone who has attention deficit disorder.

    I understand what you mean by being introverted versus extroverted. I deal with this "character trait" on a constant basis everyday. I wish I could socialize but people aren't receptive to hearing conversations from schizoaffective people unless it's my extended family. To strangers I also look anxious, taciturn, and don't easily talk easily about what I want and converse easily. I'd have to secretly insert writing into a conversation. I understand the struggle to communicate. In real life I am like this. I can't guess what you want to write about. But writing is autobiographical and a subconcious process. People with aspergers have that personality trait. A goal of an aspergers character could be to be more introverted. Seems like a illusion or a lie of the character that you must do things done that get you in trouble in order to be introverted. That's something worth writing about. (extroverted means you are in essence not socializing while introverted is the opposite)

    Unfortunately therapy is one of the ways doctors tell you to handle it. People in my situation think I don't like to talk to people. Yes in many cases we log on to the computer. Read books, and don't see enough movies to prove we can socialize. Talking about anything depends on reading things that happen in everyday life.

    My advice is since you have some autobiographical material which is your life experience with aspergers that you can turn that into a story.

    As for socialzing we are a society that likes to use technology too much. We need to feel a social connection and to socialize and they do give therapy for people with aspergers. They gave therapy to me once and I left because I felt 200 dollars worth of therapy while in the united states was expensive. I lived in mclean which is known to be have high living costs and probably to my knowledge higher salaries.

    Nami is the only free choice available I know off. Other aspies I think would want to be friends. It's something they struggle with. Nami is located in all the states I think.

    People can be mean, and I try despite my differences to get along. People that have problems, I tend to avoid conflict with. I avoid them and don't socialize with these which is the exception.

    Characters with troubling inner desires also make for great characters for the imagination. For me I know what a depressed character goes through. Characters with problems have hopes, desires, and dreams, and even fears. That's probably where desire comes from.

    You are most likely an intelligent person. We can't change who we are. We can adapt. We can try to find people who think in a similar way by going to a therapy group which is what I recommend. In my case I'd need to go to a non-profit organization to find people who I can make friends with in real life.

    Apathy is something to work on for me as well. It's a lack of feeling. I try to avoid feeling on purpose. While friendships in the real world are hard to maintain. I don't go the extra mile, to put myself in those situations. So I think this is what you meant.
    Last edited by Theglasshouse; October 27th, 2019 at 12:28 AM.
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    speaking up, for suicides...

    Sincere apologies to WF and the members for posting this yesterday. I have really strong views on the subject of and should learn to keep my views, and my reactions to other peoples', in check. Something that I read yesterday got me a bit fired up but I'm over it now.

    Regards, dither...
    Last edited by dither; October 28th, 2019 at 11:03 AM.
    If i post a comment on a "WIP", LOOK! I'm a reader that's all, and i can only tell how i feel, as a READER, giving/offering feedback. Hoping to learn and grow here. So please, tell me where i'm going wrong.

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  10. #580
    I suffered from bouts of depression for many years but it's been gone for over a decade now.

    Some ideas I have are that it's from surrounding myself with nice people and getting away from problem people; lowered stress (in my case, from being past the heavy responsibility years of childrearing/work); or some other change that comes with age.

    I'm not sure why but thought it might help someone to know that sometimes it just goes away.











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