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  1. dither's Avatar
    Oh dear, well thanks for the comments guys. Might just look out for it but I'm not so keen now.
  2. Asmoab's Avatar
    In Search of Lost Time is a book about the ins and outs of French middle/upper class life in the late 1800's. I've tried to read it a couple of times, as it is one of the classics, but it's really not for me. I've never managed to get more than half way through.

    If you think nothing much is happening in your life, read this book, it'll make your days feel full of excitement.

    Proust was a lifelong hypochondriac who used to write to his mother, whenever he was away, detailing his medical conditions, including his bowel movements! Never worth comparing your life to anybody else's. They'll have their own s**t
  3. -xXx-'s Avatar
    la recherche du temps perdu (In Search of Lost Time; earlier rendered as Remembrance of Things Past), published in seven parts between 1913 and 1927.
    involuntary memory
    seven volumes, childhood recollections/experiences
    1992 revised translation
    per der wiki

  4. Winston's Avatar
    All I know is Sharp, or Extra Sharp. My Lady likes it like that, too.
    Again, some get it... and some order Mild or Medium. Life is too short for Mild.
  5. Asmoab's Avatar
    What's not to like? A moment of connection ... and seriously strong cheddar... can it get better?
  6. -xXx-'s Avatar
    happening indeed!
    *wafts some sharp cheddar*
    *wonders what post on 8 oz would be*

  7. Firemajic's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by bdcharles
    I agree: helping people is good for everyone, not least the person doing it. But a cure for depression? I'm not sure that's quite right - I need to counter that. Depression is a specific medical thing with specific neurological causes and specific treatment. You can help all the people you'd like, the depression will still be there. By the same token, going for a brisk walk is generally a good thing to do, but I wouldn't recommend it to sufferers of, say, gout. In the first instance, I'd recommend gout medication, followed by a change of diet.
    When my Mother was killed, I was devastated, and depressed, my Doctor suggested I volunteer somewhere and help someone, he said it would benefit me more than medication... so I did... I went to a local nursing home and asked if there was anyone who did not have family to visit them, and I was connected with an elderly woman who I started visiting on a regular basis... it did help a little....

    I know there are dangerous people walking the streets... I have worked in group homes for years... those were the lucky ones... they had a place to go and they had supervision... sadly, there are many who cannot find help and are without their medication, and that is a dangerous situation...
  8. bdcharles's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by Plasticweld

    This is what I don't get. Depression is routed in feeling like you don't make a difference, and nothing you do matters, you are powerless to make changes not only for yourself but in society in general. Helping someone less fortunate has always been the cure, caring about someone else is always the path to you personally being healthy.
    I agree: helping people is good for everyone, not least the person doing it. But a cure for depression? I'm not sure that's quite right - I need to counter that. Depression is a specific medical thing with specific neurological causes and specific treatment. You can help all the people you'd like, the depression will still be there. By the same token, going for a brisk walk is generally a good thing to do, but I wouldn't recommend it to sufferers of, say, gout. In the first instance, I'd recommend gout medication, followed by a change of diet.
  9. dither's Avatar
    No, I know that Maj. I'm just not comfortable with strangers talking to me. I've even walked away from bus-stops because of people talking to me. There are/have been exceptions of course but they are few and far between. My problem huh!
  10. Firemajic's Avatar
    Please understand, I am not suggesting that you ever place yourself in danger....
  11. Ma'am's Avatar
    After a volunteer stint at a large urban homeless shelter, my feelings are mixed. A lot of the homeless who came by there were addicts. I felt like I was just helping enable them to continue a lifestyle that was incredibly destructive, to them and whoever they may prey on to maintain their habit.

    We provided food, showers, free laundry service, clothes, medical care and more. We knew not to go to the area outside where they were allowed to get high on the property. Nothing was required of them but to not act too extremely disruptive inside the building. In other words, we did everything the families and friends of addicts are told NOT to do.

    However, the things mentioned here "on the other hand" are also true. From what I hear, most of the institutions in the US that would care for- and supervise- those who aren't mentally able to adequately care for themselves were shut down in the 1990's.
    Updated December 31st, 2019 at 05:11 PM by Ma'am
  12. dither's Avatar
    Yeah, I know, you ARE right of course but I just can't do that stuff. The man I mentioned in the OP... his mind is some place else... that makes him unpredictable... and that scares me. PEOPLE scare me, INTERACTION scares me. I'm sorry but that's me.
  13. Plasticweld's Avatar
    Thanks for sharing such an uplifting story. You made a difference, let someone know that someone, anyone, actually just cared about him. It was simple, it was cheap and I bet it made a real difference to him.

    I bet it made you feel good to make a difference. While you said you felt as though you failed him, I am sure he didn't feel that way, nor do I.

    This is what I don't get. Depression is routed in feeling like you don't make a difference, and nothing you do matters, you are powerless to make changes not only for yourself but in society in general. Helping someone less fortunate has always been the cure, caring about someone else is always the path to you personally being healthy.

    I help people all the time, I don't say that to brag but share only to say that it is one of the things that always makes me feel good, always lets me know I matter and there is a reason for me being around. People are quick to say. This weed is great it will make you feel good, this is great tequila it will make you feel like you are on top of the world. These shoes, this car, this house will all make you feel better. I can promise you nothing will make you feel better than, helping someone out, sending them a note just to say you are thinking of them, doing anything to just make their life easier. Even a smile from you can change the way a person views the rest of the day...There the secret to being happy is out.

    Thanks for taking the time share you story...Bob
  14. Firemajic's Avatar
    I agree.... what is wrong with society.... most people now days seem to think it is someone else's responsibility... well guess what? It is EVERYONE'S responsibility....

    I was at a local diner and overheard people talking about "some old drunk" sleeping under a certain bridge, they were all saying how bad that looked for the town image...

    I left the diner, went to the bridge, and there he was... frail, old... alone... I introduced myself, and asked if he needed me to call his family... he said he did not want to worry his children... turns out, he had applied to a nursing home for assistance, and was told it would be a few days before his room would be available... he thanked me for my offer of assistance, said he was quite comfortable there for a few days while he was waiting for his room, the weather was nice, but he said "these damn mosquitos are driving me crazy"... I left and returned with bug spray, snacks and bottled water.... He was so grateful for these small items...

    I returned the next day and he was gone... I checked the nursing home, he was not there... I asked everyone I could about him, but no one knew where he went, and they did not even care... I wish I would have handled the situation better... I feel like I failed him...
  15. Plasticweld's Avatar
    You asked in your title, "Where is the care?" it is obviously not with you. If you could make any small effort to befriend the old guy, hear is story, maybe even offer to help. Somehow you think "others" should be doing this. If your a good man or woman you take up the needed task and make a difference. Think how little you would have to do to make a difference in this old guys day, think how much that might lift up his spirits and truly make a difference in your little town.and in his life. He is neglected because it is not easy, nor pretty. Not some cute puppy but a person with real feelings and you just walk by with your head held down. Winston said it was interesting to see the world in your eyes. I will only say it sad to see the world in your eyes. While you might not have much, I do believe it is not to much for you to show some compassion towards someone less fortunate; it costs nothing, and the act of doing someone else a kind deed may actually do more to change not just your out look on life but on someone else.

    Who cares, the guy will still be there tomorrow, it would be nice to read how you made an effort to be kind to him and share the story with the rest of us...that would be uplifting!
  16. Winston's Avatar
    It's always interesting and enlightening seeing the world through your eyes.
    You paint a very vivid picture of where you live. Thanks again for sharing.
  17. -xXx-'s Avatar
    *narrative natural*
  18. Theglasshouse's Avatar
    Don't drink soda. It makes it easier to get kidney stones. That and it's bad for your kidney's and takes a good while to eliminate from the human body. I quit drinking that when I first got kidney stones which was 2 years ago.
  19. Irwin's Avatar
    Soda makes me have to pee a lot. I make sure to drink iced tea instead before a show or movie out. Otherwise, I'll have to get up every hour to pee.
  20. dither's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by Winston
    You are fortunate, as most new jobs in today's economy have odd hours and rotating days off. My daughter works retail, and her time off is at the whim of schedulers trying to comply with insane government regulations.
    I won't be sorry to be out of the rat-race Winston tbh. I shall miss the routine but hope I find something to help me while away my time. We shall see I suppose.
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