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  1. tinacrabapple's Avatar
    Brewing is great! My husband brews cider from frozen apple juice from the store. It tastes like piss, but he gets super excited about it and it saves money. He also brews other types of beer. Those are usually pretty good and when my drunk friend comes over and runs out of her supply- I hook her up with his tap.

    We don't make a ton of cash in my house either, but we have enough for what we need.

    My husband has been using an air rifle to shoot the chipmunks, but mainly he misses and the little critters are climbing all over the front porch. They are kinda cute, but they are pretty destructive to the house. I hate to order their extermination. We've been using poison and mouse traps for the mice in the garage. The daycare is very messy so they aren't allowed to eat outside any more. One of my kids is trying to eat all the time and gets food everywhere. Anyway, glad you have a new air rifle that is quiet and you are enjoying it.

    Good that you can fix your own truck.

    enjoy the baseball game.

    Glad you are having a fantastic vacation!
  2. TuesdayEve's Avatar
    When I drink(rarely), I like a dark beer,
    Guinness or Amstel Dark but adding
    Kahlua....sounds delicious!
    Post pictures of the truck when you get
    a chance.
  3. Plasticweld's Avatar
    I would offer you sympathy....but as a friend that would be wrong. Life is all around you. You are measured by what you do for others, not just by them, but the world around you. The more people and living things that depend on you, the more of a difference you make in life. It not only brings meaning to your life but to theirs.


    Everyone is tired, everyone has a reason to not do more. Instead of retreating back into yourself, look for someone or something that needs you, spend a little of what you are, on something else. It could be a kid without a dad, a pet without a home. The less you do for others the less value you place on yourself.

    It's hard to feel like a man when you don't act like one, hard to feel like your winning when you gave up, halfway up the mountain. All the good stuff in life comes at a cost. A good marriage, kids that respect and adore you and friends and workers that respect you.

    Tuesday mentioned cycles in life...you don't need to wait to help someone, they are all around you, if you just open your eyes. The road to depression is littered with to much time and energy spent on oneself.


    Your in my prayers for strength buddy.
  4. Aquarius's Avatar
    Sometimes the tide goes out, in nature the same as in our lives. But don't forget that it never fails to return, in nature as well as our lives. only to return later. Be of good cheer and never give up. Keep on keeping on.
  5. TuesdayEve's Avatar
    Dear Winston, Iím a little late responding
    so by now with summer here I hope things
    look brighter. My response to your words;
    things go in cycles and while you think
    they donít need you now, that will change.
  6. TuesdayEve's Avatar
    Women go through that phase as well.
    I call it phase because while a kind of
    complacency sets in , I feel, as we get
    older we don’t have anything to prove
    anymore. In the past we were pushing
    forward, careers, families etc. some
    dreams came true others dissolved but
    always looking forward... now... a pain
    here, a pain there, we accept our bodies
    are not young anymore and freak out a
    little....I think thats when we loose our
    curiosity for new things and adventures
    ..... but...with a nudge ofself-discipline
    or just a kick in the but-tocks,
    curiosity can be restored....
    What did you ever wonder about?
    What did you ever think might be fun?
    What if you tried something a different way?
  7. Winston's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by dither
    I hope that I have learned from being here.
    As do we all.

    "A sign of intelligence is an awareness of one's own ignorance." Niccolo Machiavelli
  8. dither's Avatar
    I hope that I have learned from being here.
  9. Kevin's Avatar
    Sometimes I feel like I've said what I've said though I've a lot more that I could say, but there's only a handful here that would bother to listen and so what's the point? I, we , end up at the blog, or silent. Sometimes, a comment or two. That's the way of it. Most of my scribbles are stored in notes somewhere where no one will ever see (or would care to bother- I wouldn't ...) At least I got some practice, right? Learned how to 'speak' some before I go.
  10. escorial's Avatar
    Not Waving but Drowning

    Stevie Smith, 1902 - 1971



    Nobody heard him, the dead man,
    But still he lay moaning:
    I was much further out than you thought
    And not waving but drowning.

    Poor chap, he always loved larking
    And now he’s dead
    It must have been too cold for him his heart gave way,
    They said.

    Oh, no no no, it was too cold always
    (Still the dead one lay moaning)
    I was much too far out all my life
    And not waving but drowning.

  11. dither's Avatar
    Winston,

    how strange that only this morning, I was, AM, having similar thoughts regarding WF.
    Not that I was ever VERY active in here, nor can I lay claim to writing skills or accomplishment, but the dithering does seem to have dried up.
    My enthusiasm for day to day life, the nine to five, the weekend shopping, the bus-trips out of town, then home to drink until I crash , just isn't there any more.
    It all just seems so mundane now and at my age I really can't be bothered to care.
    Updated July 1st, 2018 at 10:32 AM by dither
  12. tinacrabapple's Avatar
    Thanks for sharing this story. We had an incident on the bus with another kids and my son. We were very angry when we found out. It hard not to get overly angry when your child is wronged. You have a good Apple and it's nice to hear about him. You should be proud!
  13. dither's Avatar
    Guys,
    I've been giving this a lot of thought.
    Okay, so maybe I'm not a total loser.
    And I didn't entirely throw the towel in.
    But!!!!

    As for what life may or may not offer the working man today.....
    I just never had the balls to " go for it ", god I hate that expression, in any way shape or form.
    So I DID, in a way, give up in so far as I just stood by and watched as life passed me by.

    Having SAID that, I have my health and strength, always did have, I'm almost ashamed to say, and that's what I should feel shame for having wasted. Oh dear, where was I?

    Having said....

    As we live and breathe, life, a person's very existence comes at a cost.

    Food, shelter etc.

    Respectability I guess, a front, my hiding place.

    And so, to that end, I've worked and supported myself. Stayed relatively free of debt and out of trouble.
    I was never a risk-taker. I do regret that.
    Fortune favouring the brave, apparently, and all that.

    But with any amount of courage who knows what I might have done with my life?

    Because of my own fears that stunted any prospects that I might have had I turned my back on the world, bitterness and resentment have been my bed-fellows and even now, at the eleventh hour, IT IS TOO LATE for me.

    I'm digging myself into a hole here and this comment is not turning out how I'd like, oh well. Maybe somebody will make some sense of it.

    For those who HAVE given up I can only feel sorrow. I have no right to say that I know how they feel because I'm not in their shoes. I have, at least, kept myself out of the gutter. Just.
    And I claim no victory for that.
    Just a life so full of regrets.

    Life eh?
  14. Winston's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by dither

    ...And why the hatred for those who , in your eyes, don't measure up?...
    dither, if I hated you, I'd just keep my mouth shut and not care.
    Not at all my goal to make you, or anyone else unhappy. Uncomfortable? Sure.
    I am selfish. I'd like you to be content and comfortable. But if you're uncomfortable examining your position in life, that's called growth. Yes, even at your age.
    "Skipper Dan" stopped growing. Like the 30 year old Millennial living in his parent's basement. But that's not you, dither. I enjoy hearing about your walks, conversations with folks and your general musings. It's not about being "happy". It's about liking and respecting yourself enough to share with others. I said above that everyone has a duty to bring some value to others' lives. To share their real selves. You do that.

    Lord knows I'm no Ray of Sunshine, but I am a fighter. So are you, dither. We all fight in our own ways, according to our own unique abilities. Sometimes "faking it" is as simple as complimenting a stranger out of the blue. Being kind to a child or old person. Doing those things when you feel like crap inside. Because we all need love. Giving love, especially for no good reason, is what keeps us human.

    Self pity and loathing like "Skipper Dan" is the antithesis of that.
  15. Kevin's Avatar
    Reminds me of Uncle Rico in Napolean Dynomite how he was stuck in the past of his former glory. Yes, sometimes you move on. Acting carriers dont work for most, just like sports. Most just don't make it. And you can't simply force it with hard work.
  16. dither's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by Winston
    But for the average, middle /working class person today, it is unfathomable not to appreciate what life today offers. And being "blessed" .

    It's as simple as a heartfelt smile. Like people and like yourself. "Fake it 'till you make it". Just try.
    But I stand by my assertion. Giving up is for losers.

    Sorry Winston but I don't go along with that.

    And as for faking it, for what? For whom? For those who don't approve that they might one day like me? I don't think so.

    I have to be me Winston. I can't/won't pretend to be something or somebody that I'm not. We are what we are and in my case it isn't pretty. No time for losers eh?

    And why the hatred for those who , in your eyes, don't measure up?

    There's no doubt that you and PW have every right to hold your heads high and walk with pride.I couldn't ever be like you. Wouldn't want to be. I don't begrudge you your self-respect/dignity/self-esteem whatever and I certainly don't hate you for it.

    I tolerate others in the hope that they might tolerate me. That's all.
  17. Winston's Avatar
    Quote Originally Posted by bdcharles
    Assuming God exists. And Skipper Dan himself is a cartoon character, though one born presumably of satire centred around first-world problems. Much better, I feel, to save one's boot for the faces of the people that actually deserve it.
    You do realize that the "Skipper Dan" character serves to illustrate a metaphor? I actually watched an interview with Weird Al before posting this. Neither he nor I have any ill will toward hard working folks stuck in bad jobs. That "boot to the face" comment was not necessary. If you ever want to compare crappy jobs, I'll beat you every day.

    You may not think you exist for a reason. You are entitled to that presumption. But I will not coddle, excuse or shrug-off anyone that treats their life as anything less than a precious gift. Obviously "Skipper Dan" is not real. But there are far too many folks in the real world that act just like that fictional character. If anyone goes into their job every day, and is not looking forward to bringing value to someone else's life, that person is a selfish wanker. Period.

    dither, I understand and appreciate your situation. I am also very aware of folks with legitimate mental health issues such as depression. But for the average, middle /working class person today, it is unfathomable not to appreciate what life today offers. And being "blessed" (sry BD), if you don't feel like you have some duty to pay it forward, you're acting like a petulant child.

    It's as simple as a heartfelt smile. Like people and like yourself. "Fake it 'till you make it". Just try.
    But I stand by my assertion. Giving up is for losers.
  18. bdcharles's Avatar
    God puts us where we are for a reason.
    Assuming God exists. And Skipper Dan himself is a cartoon character, though one born presumably of satire centred around first-world problems. Much better, I feel, to save one's boot for the faces of the people that actually deserve it.
  19. Plasticweld's Avatar
    Good post Fred, Every day is a new day and you can be whoever you want to be. Yesterday doesn't matter, nor does tomorrow. Today the stage is yours...do something with it.
  20. dither's Avatar
    Sounds easy when you put it like that Winston but it isn't. It just isn't. I'm sorry.
    Y'know? As I get older I find myself wanting to do something about my life. Some days it's all I think about. NO I don't want to have fun or experience any kind of enjoyment. That would be over-doing it. Just to feel like getting up and facing another day would be an amazing thing for me. Counselling is out of the question, after 60 odd years where does person start? and I don't want to get into taking happy-pills either.

    I have no sound here so there would be no point in my watching the clip.

    Maybe this vivo character should consider a career-change whatever.
    Updated May 14th, 2018 at 10:52 AM by dither
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