Take oeanuts , for instance. I am deathly allergic to peanuts. Should I insist they ban peanuts in all public venues? No more peanuts in airplanes, stadiums, bars, or in snicker bars. Why? Because they hurt me. If I were to eat one I woukd surely die.
And yet there are many who would insist that we need peanuts- that their choices to eat and use peanuts are more important than my life. Those unkind people who feel that way are hurting me.
You see, that's when it gets annoying- when it gets goddamned ridiculous- when my sensitivity takes precedence, is more important than everyone else's choices. Can you deny peanuts hurt me? Do you really have to eat peanuts?! Your support of peanuts insults me. Why do you insist on hurting me?!
How triggered am I?
Not very, not enough to scream and cry, and walk around pouting, or shouting, or bawling, and crying and carrying on like o m gawd, people are just so mean!! They just don't care! I'm the one who cares and you should care for me, as much as me - what if it was your child, or your sister, or you?! We all need to end the peanuts!
If you can't see the ridiculousness of this, then I don't know what to tell you. I guess that is the difference between us. You would gladly give up peanuts- ban them, even- make it a law- to support me.
But I would never ask. It would never occur to me. That would be too much. It would be ridiculous; an unreasonable request.
Peanuts are just a nut- a legume, actually, not a nut- and there is nothing inherently wrong with them. I'm the one with the issue- not them. So why would I insist they be banned?
Just put a warning on the package- or a list of ingredients. I think everyone can agree that they want to know what they're eating. It's sort of like informed consent- and that's good enough. That way we have a choice. We can keep our choices.
And if I see a peanut, I won't eat it.