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**thamior** · 08-01-2006, 07:57 PM

Originally Posted by silverwriter

that's her decision to make, not yours. being typical INFP, you're worrying about someone else rather than taking care of yourself

That may be true, but without considering what others have to say she has made a desicion, but what if its not the right one....I have considered myself, and right now it awaits what I glean from her. I know what I want...I dont know what she wants...

**thamior** · 08-01-2006, 07:57 PM

Originally Posted by Achilles

According to typelogic, you guys are my complements. That's pretty cool.

We make each other better

silverwriter · 08-01-2006, 07:57 PM

achilles, that sounds about right.

t - true. there are plenty of things interlinking.

silverwriter · 08-01-2006, 07:58 PM

t - it's still her decision to make. you worrying won't change that

**thamior** · 08-01-2006, 07:59 PM

Originally Posted by silverwriter

achilles, that sounds about right.

t - true. there are plenty of things interlinking.

I just wish that she and I could sit down, talk, and that some other people could talk to us so that we could make the best desicion possible, for both of us.

**thamior** · 08-01-2006, 08:00 PM

Originally Posted by silverwriter

t - it's still her decision to make. you worrying won't change that

I know that, I dont want to make her desicion for her, I want to show her alternatives desicions.

silverwriter · 08-01-2006, 08:01 PM

INFPs tendency to be idealistic and romantically-minded may cause them to fantasize frequently about a "more perfect" relationship or situation. They may also romanticize their mates into having qualities which they do not actually possess. Most INFPs have a problem with reconciling their highly idealistic and romantic views of life with the reality of their own lives, and so they are constantly somewhat unsettled with themselves and with their close personal relationships. However, the INFP's deeply-felt, sincere love for their mates and their intense dislike of conflict keeps the INFP loyal to their relationships, in spite of their troubles achieving peace of mind.
Unlike other types who tend to hold their mates up on a pedastal, the INFP's tendency to do so does not really turn into a negative thing in the relationship. INFPs hold tightly to their ideals, and work hard at constantly seeing their mates up on that pedastal. The frequent INFP result is a strongly affirming, proud and affectionate attitude towards their mates which stands the test of time.

**Achilles** · 08-01-2006, 08:02 PM

I don't mean to completely interrupt this emotional converstion... but, where did you guys take the personality test? I forgot where I took it, but I recall that it was the only free one I could find. Could you point me in the right direction?

**thamior** · 08-01-2006, 08:03 PM

Originally Posted by silverwriter

INFPs tendency to be idealistic and romantically-minded may cause them to fantasize frequently about a "more perfect" relationship or situation. They may also romanticize their mates into having qualities which they do not actually possess. Most INFPs have a problem with reconciling their highly idealistic and romantic views of life with the reality of their own lives, and so they are constantly somewhat unsettled with themselves and with their close personal relationships. However, the INFP's deeply-felt, sincere love for their mates and their intense dislike of conflict keeps the INFP loyal to their relationships, in spite of their troubles achieving peace of mind.
Unlike other types who tend to hold their mates up on a pedastal, the INFP's tendency to do so does not really turn into a negative thing in the relationship. INFPs hold tightly to their ideals, and work hard at constantly seeing their mates up on that pedastal. The frequent INFP result is a strongly affirming, proud and affectionate attitude towards their mates which stands the test of time.

That doesnt mean a better situation isnt achievable...

Achillies - http://www.humanmetrics.com/cgi-win/JTypes1.htm

silverwriter · 08-01-2006, 08:04 PM

Originally Posted by Achilles

I don't mean to completely interrupt this emotional converstion... but, where did you guys take the personality test? I forgot where I took it, but I recall that it was the only free one I could find. Could you point me in the right direction?

first page of the personality thread. i forget all the time

silverwriter · 08-01-2006, 08:05 PM

Originally Posted by thamior

That doesnt mean a better situation isnt achievable...

and that, sweetie, is why they call us the idealists

**thamior** · 08-01-2006, 08:06 PM

Originally Posted by silverwriter

and that, sweetie, is why they call us the idealists

SW...its still possible though, you keep bringing that up like we're hoplessly pathetic in our idealism...

silverwriter · 08-01-2006, 08:08 PM

no, i'm not trying to. remember, i'm an idealist too. it's possible. anything is possible. but, i am outside the situation. i'm giving you some of the advice i should be taking in my current situation, but i refuse to. i refuse to budge, even though i have people telling me so many things.

**thamior** · 08-01-2006, 08:10 PM

Originally Posted by silverwriter

no, i'm not trying to. remember, i'm an idealist too. it's possible. anything is possible. but, i am outside the situation. i'm giving you some of the advice i should be taking in my current situation, but i refuse to. i refuse to budge, even though i have people telling me so many things.

I just don't know how to take the advice...