A question for the ladies, about SEX - Page 5 - Writers Forum

alanmt · 05-07-2008, 10:39 AM

women are actually better at flirting. Like in that short story I posted a while back, when a woman touches my arm, rubbing lightly on that muscle between my wrist and elbow, I'll do whatever she wants.

Remedy · 05-07-2008, 01:47 PM

I've never had a one-night stand, and I'm not looking to either. But having watched enough people attempt, I can tell a few things.

Pretty much what the others have been posted is good. People go for that sort of guy.

But they also go for the quiet, strong guy. Seriously. One of my male friends goes around ignoring everyone - literally, no eye contact, no looking at them, no speaking to them, nothing - and the girls just flock to him. Part of it is because he does look very good, and he's obviously strong (he's definitely big, but not in a fat way at all). But the other part of it is because he doesn't give away anything (he doesn't do it for the attention either; he just likes to be left alone), and that attracts them. It's the mystery of it, I guess.

On the other hand, the moment he opens his mouth, people either love him or spend every second of their time disagreeing with him. It's usually the latter. Unless they're little old ladies. Little old ladies adore him.

meldy · 05-07-2008, 02:16 PM

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Originally Posted by alanmt

women are actually better at flirting. Like in that short story I posted a while back, when a woman touches my arm, rubbing lightly on that muscle between my wrist and elbow, I'll do whatever she wants.

LOL

I dont know that it has anything to do with being better at flirting.
I think men are just easier to please

and it takes a lot less work to get them to put out than it takes a woman.

A man brushes my arm like that and, depending on my mood, how much I have had to drink, what he looks like, and the orientation of
Mars in relation to Jupiter (jk) he is either going to get (at least) a conversation or a dirty look.

papertears · 05-07-2008, 03:41 PM

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Originally Posted by CodeRed

Alcohol... and a dark room, too.

Once, at a night club, it had gotten to the end of the evening and the house lights went on to encourage everyone to scatter. Above the din, a female voice was heard to shout "Oh my God, I want my phone number back!".

The poor guy.

classic...

lin · 05-07-2008, 09:19 PM

Sure, I went and and and and and left.

joifulartist84 · 05-07-2008, 11:28 PM

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when you stand close to him and you get a scent of man mixed with a hint of cologne - clean but masculine scent, not dirty sweaty guy smell

Ooooh that's an important one, Alan!

I think that whatever the rest of the body physique happens to be, collarbones and shoulders are usually really sexy. Is that weird?

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when the guy has issues with confidence beyond that he's a little shy at first--like he thinks he sucks or something--its a total turn off.

Ditto. I've spent wayyyy too much time with guys like that.

Raging_Hopeful · 05-08-2008, 12:00 AM

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And if he can manage those two things while buying me a large gin sling at the bar then he might just be relationship material too....

Loulou, can -I- buy you a gin sling?

seigfried007 · 05-08-2008, 05:04 AM

Chests are great no matter what gender you're into, Joi. Either you dig guys and want them to have guy chests, or you dig ladies and one them to have blugeoning boobies. Chests are perhaps where externally visible secondary sexual characerics manifest most dramatically.

Mike C · 05-08-2008, 07:15 AM

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Originally Posted by alanmt

women are actually better at flirting.

You've not met me.

Foxee · 05-08-2008, 07:26 AM

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I think that whatever the rest of the body physique happens to be, collarbones and shoulders are usually really sexy. Is that weird?

Joi, this was a good attribute to bring up! Not weird at all. Collarbones are sexy...so is the area right behind and slightly below the ear where some guys' hair is just a little bit curly even if it's straight everywhere else. (these two areas are favorite kissing areas

) And I like a nice set of shoulders, arms, chest, and back. Doesn't have to be a body builder but some muscular definition is lovely.

*sigh* Happy thoughts.

Edit: a nice upper body can be ruined by a set of chicken legs, though.

JosephB · 05-08-2008, 08:15 AM

Collarbones and shoulders?

Heck no, that's not weird. The nape of a womans neck, (besides the more obvious naughty bits) is very enticing to me, and delicious to nibble. More nape please. One of the reasons I have kind of a ponytail fetish.

smilinghelps · 05-08-2008, 08:17 AM

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Things that have always worked for me:

Clean nails (women look).
Confidence.
LOTS of eye contact.
An ability to make her laugh and
A willingness to listen.

Being well dressed helps a lot.

Side note: Never wear a pink shirt to a cowboy bar.

Two great minds think alike:

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If it's a casual meeting at a bar or a party, a guy across the room can get me to want to go talk to him by making eye contact and smiling. That man however, would have to look "put together", decent haircut, well groomed, dressed appropriately (no sports jerseys please) and a non-smoker. If he wants me to continue to talk to him, he must talk to me repectfully, have a sense of humor, be generally nice and have clean hands (nice fingernails) and clean, decent shoes.

I am under the impression that the OP was based on first impressions, across the room--what qualities in a guy I'd look for, for a one-night stand and what would make me (a woman) want to initiate an encounter.

I have had one-nighters before and this is what I would go for: Definitely someone with good looks (IMHO) with charisma, intelligence and a sense of humor. But hell, I'm not picking him up to hear him talk. I have also picked up guys who, after conversation--or god forbid a kiss--that I've left. If he's good looking but can't string more than 2 intelligent words together, I'm out. If he's attractive and captivating enough to make me want to kiss him but tries to swallow my face or taste my leftovers--Bye Bye. In some cases less is more. Although, I've met guys with really less and have left.

One night stands are a gamble in many ways--you have to take into consideration the STD factor, what he's willing to do to prevent that and whether or not he's going to be calling you 20 times a day afterward. Back in the day, I only collected and never gave out my number and never took anyone back to my place--if they wanted to find me, it would've been a challenge for them. I didn't have many one-nighters and when I did, they were more often friends with benefits than strangers. You have to protect yourself.

seigfried007 · 05-08-2008, 10:32 AM

If we're on to physique, muscular definition that looks earned and not built-by-'roids is best--particularly chest, back and thighs.

Butts are wonderful things. I've known my husband for ten years and been married for six years--and I still smack his bottom in public because it's just so damn delicious. His thighs are to kill for even if the rest of his physique (aside from his face which, as always, is absolutely beautiful) is sadly crumbling due to poor health beyond his control.

Btw, crow's feet look good on men. They add character. And accentuate smiles and leers. I wish the same was true of women, but hey, at least my man will be sexy to the grave 'cause he'll only get more wrinkles

joifulartist84 · 05-08-2008, 04:31 PM

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Butts are wonderful things. I've known my husband for ten years and been married for six years--and I still smack his bottom in public because it's just so damn delicious. His thighs are to kill for even if the rest of his physique (aside from his face which, as always, is absolutely beautiful) is sadly crumbling due to poor health beyond his control.

Btw, crow's feet look good on men. They add character. And accentuate smiles and leers. I wish the same was true of women, but hey, at least my man will be sexy to the grave 'cause he'll only get more wrinkles

Absolutely. My bf smacks my butt and I smack his

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He's older than me by quite a bit, and I love to see his crow's feet when he smiles.

I've never had a one-night stand, so it's hard for me to comment specifically on what it would take for me to initiate contact. All I can say is what I like and don't like in a man.

Remedy · 05-08-2008, 07:37 PM

To be more shallow than I usually try to be:

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Chests are great no matter what gender you're into, Joi. Either you dig guys and want them to have guy chests, or you dig ladies and one them to have blugeoning boobies. Chests are perhaps where externally visible secondary sexual characerics manifest most dramatically.

Generally, I agree with you. My partner has a very defined chest (and rarely wears a shirt too), which I think is very, very attractive. But people have different tastes; I know some girls who prefer guys with very slim chests and guys who prefer girls with little to no boobs. So I guess that part varies.

I think a good neck can be attractive as well. And definitely hair (or lack thereof; it depends on the person).