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I can see you've never dated a cross-eyed non-English-speaking babushka.

The Backward OX

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ash somers

and i just proved myself wrong, i love it when that happens :p

Raging_Hopeful

Figures. I put my thread next to the SEX thread and suddenly nooooo body pays attention! *smirk* Pervs.

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papertears

if the woman has true feelings for him, even just the beginnings of them then have him doing stuff with his hands. focus on whatever he's doing with his hands--like playing with silly putty, fixing the kitchen sink so it doesn't drip, stacking books--anything that shows off his hands and even the muscles in his lower arms is a massive turn on. i can't explain it exactly. it has to do with the fact that romantically there is this notion that the guy is going to touch you with his hands first. that first contact is so very important.

i've had this talk with lots of hetero girlfriends and we all agree that we start getting very turned on watching the guys hands. (it helps if they're nice, they don't have to be totally well manicured, its kinda sexy if you can tell he's been working hard--but you don't want him to have green fungus nails or something.)

so yeah, have him talking to the woman, making eye contact but working with his hands. she'll keep losing her train of thought watching his hands, thinking about "first contact" and getting more and more turned on. she'll feel her lips (the ones on her face you pervs) respond first. that might make her blush and giggle and start the flirting before she eventually loses all control and just attacks him because of those hands.

i dated this guy that made pizza crusts--threw them, whatever the hell its called, i've forgotten. that was so damn sexy we always ended up fooling around before we baked them.

i really hope that helped because i really need to go now, i've been thinking about this too much. *blush* *wink*

papertears

i hate to admit it after he's flamed me but, *poke* Mike is right about several of these things!

i'm kinda curious what happened to Mike in his pink shirt at the cowboy bar.

confidence is so damn sexy.... the eye contact is part of that. put confidence and eye contact with the hands stuff in my previous post and *drool*

when the guy has issues with confidence beyond that he's a little shy at first--like he thinks he sucks or something--its a total turn off. if he puts himself down i won't move on him a bit, i throw him to the weeds after a few minutes of sympathy attention or a dance. too much confidence is a turn off too though. this happens a lot with guys that are too intoxicated, luckily they're really easy to distract and sneak off from.

the clean nails applies to flip flop weather too. it sounds shallow, but omg its horrid to get stabbed by your date's 2 inch long disgusting toenails--that'll kill the romantic moment and mood dead.

i'll take a guy that can make me laugh and either listens to me or pretends to, over a guy with a lousy personality and better body 99.9% of the time.

don't throw rocks or call me anti-feminist! i happen to like a little bit of chivalry and it increases the chances of a blow job in the future immensely. (not because its like trading favors--but because chivalry seems old-fashionedly romantic--which gets me in the mood.) by a little bit, i mean opening the door for me as we leave, opening the car door for me on dates (btw, back before car door locks were all fancy and automatic, i would reach across and unlock his door too) or just going somewhere, waiting to make sure i get inside safely. i suppose that with cell phones this doesn't apply so much anymore, but it used to be that if i had a long drive home, asking me to call to make sure i made it safely was very sweet. i certainly do NOT EXPECT or punish for lack of this behavior.

i guess though, being a prude and not kissing on the first date or believing in one night stands at all--i figure most of this out long before its time to get down on my knees and start the real fun naughtiness. maybe you better qualify my stuff depending on your characters. i've never kissed anyone (other than on the cheek) or had sex (oral or intercourse) with anyone--except under duress or having been drugged--that i wasn't committed to having a long and lasting relationship to.

yes, i realize that a lot of this conflicts with my dirty mind, perverted/flirtatious comments and sailor's mouth. i think the description on my myspace page says i'm the most feminine tomboy you'll ever meet. so sue me.

papertears

sorry i read this after giving my TMI answers

Loulou

And if he can manage those two things while buying me a large gin sling at the bar then he might just be relationship material too....

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VigorousMastication

Interesting read, although it pretty much confirmed what I'd already suspected. Luckily for those of us who are only mortal, alcohol makes things significantly easier

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Mike C

I got some funny looks from guys in check shirts and cowboy hats, and asked if I was a homo. I said "No, Actually, I'm English" in my finest home-counties accent, which seemed to excuse the shirt, and I made a lot of new friends. And learned that most people in Cowboy bars in Arizona are actually not cowboys at all, but frustrated accountants.

Add to the 'what worked for me' list an English accent and an Italian suit. And, of course, devastating good looks.

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seigfried007

LOL Mike, yes acents work. My husband used an Irish accent on a hotel clerk once and she gave him a discount for the room

Personally, I'm head-over-heels for Russians. Has nothing to do with how they look and everything with how they speak. :insert drooling smiley here:

Germans are kind of iffy becasue I've heard so many sound like pansies, and pansies are never sexy.

A deep, smooth voice can hook a woman very quick. I'm a sucker for basses--especially ones that sound like they sing a lot (have that well lubricated kind of voice--like chocolate silk). I've known women to fall for voices like that even when they came from ugly guys.

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Foxee

I agree that the voice thing is really important. It conveys a lot of the attributes we've talked about...confidence, intensity, etc.

And, as for the alcohol comment, yeah, alcohol clouds judgement, no secret there. Good reason as any for me to stay away from the stuff.

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CodeRed

Alcohol... and a dark room, too.

Once, at a night club, it had gotten to the end of the evening and the house lights went on to encourage everyone to scatter. Above the din, a female voice was heard to shout "Oh my God, I want my phone number back!".

The poor guy.

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alanmt

disclaimer: I do not approve of casual sex

having said that, I am attracted to a wide variety of guys, but here are a few things that make me want to corrall and ride him.

a defined chest, muscular but lean, makes it difficult for me to resist the impulse to rip his shirt off and take him right there.

when a guy catches your eye, smile shyly but with obvious interest, and glances away

when you stand close to him and you get a scent of man mixed with a hint of cologne - clean but masculine scent, not dirty sweaty guy smell

general attributes that add to the above sensations: cheerfulness - a ready smile, adventurousness - a hint of the adrenaline junkie

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