seigfried007

No, we don't.

I told you guys what it might take to woo me for a night.

A big dick is not required. Really. Biggest wang in the world is 13.5in and the poor man hasn't dated in ten years. It frightens the ladies off.

Average is good for me.

Beside, is he waving it around? Is he waving his bank account arouhnd? If so, the only women he'll find will be cops, sluts and gold-diggers because no woman with an ounce of self-respect wants anything to do with a man obsessed with his penis, money, education, etc. We don't give a shit. Really. What turns us on like nothing else is a man who is attentive to us-a man willing to look us in the face with beautiful eyes and a calm assured demeanor and listen to us, ask us questions, pretend we're fascinating and desirable.

We can't see his bank account or penis when we first see him (or we'll politely call the cops in the case of the latter).

We want to feel sexy and attractive and worthwhile. Make a woman feel like that and she'll hand you the keys to the mansion on a silver platter.

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Malone

Most girls tell me my eyes are my best feature. I don't think they help me get laid, though. I'm gonna go buy a burka after reading this thread.

seigfried007

Any man can have beautiful eyes. I'm not kidding. It's a matter of the intensity in them, how he holds them, what he does with them. I'll grant that some colors or shapes are prettier than others but I've never seen ugly eyes that were healthy.

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Foxee

Harry, this is why you were excluded. Men really don't know, that's kinda the point. If a woman's going to sleep with a guy in one night of animalistic lust why worry about the bank account? It's not like she's expecting security over the long haul.

Personally, I haven't ever had a one-night stand. But guys who might tempt me would have to have confidence, intensity, and probably be an alpha male. The eyes, the hands...right on. It doesn't matter whether he's a construction worker or a violinist as long as he has a passion for life that shows in his personality and an active interesting mind.

This is one of the many reasons I haven't had a one-night stand. Not interested in a two-dimensional man...and in one night, that's all I'd get (other than the obvious).

If you think the ladies are answering diplomatically or don't know what they want it proves you don't have a clue. Try to understand that women heartily appreciate a beautiful physique but that just isn't the whole or even the main story of our attraction.

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seigfried007

You mean the STDs, possible pregnancy-by-stranger, money-in-wallet-to-cab-fare, the oddness of making a graceful exit, the probablility he might not be worth the risks--especially that he might be some self-obsessed serial killer, etc?

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PageOfCups

When I saw for the ladies bit I should have guessed it meant straight ladies. The closest I come to a normal atraction to a guy is fancying Pinhead . . . no wait, the Joker. He's at least human.

Foxee

That would be some of them, yep!

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seigfried007

Page, you got me thinking and this thread isn't the greatest place for this, but, what would a lesbian look for in a one-nighter? I've been awfully curious about Alanmt's perspective on this too.

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Malone

I'd imagine the same thing a guy does.
Although, being women, they're probably not as willing to drop their standards down to the sub-three range when the end of the night gets near.

PageOfCups

Are you kidding? I've yet to meet another lesbian that isn't louder about what they think is hot than the average guy. The only difference is we're alowed to get away with it because other women think we know what we're talking about when we say someone is mind numbingly gorgeous ^.^

seigfried007

Funny, I'd imagined lesbians as looking for about the same things straight women look for--but in women instead of men: an intense, intriguing persona preferably with some attractive features (especially eyes and carriage, but not limited to those as everyone has a 'favotite part' to look for/at), and something that would denote the potential for really great sex (namely, that intensity in the way the person looks at them and way she moves).

I've met a few very vocal lesbians--all 'boob' ladies by admonition. Some were downright grabby and didn't particularly care if the 'hot rack' was attached to a straight lady, but hey, jerks come in all orientations, genders, etc.

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Malone

If I were a lesbian I think my favorite feature in a mate would be a seven inch tongue.

meldy

I have had a few one night stands (guess that sort of blows Lin's theory that we women wont talk about our sexual conquests huh )
What Foxee wrote is pretty well exactly what I was looking for.
Someone to rock my world and the nerdy guy with his laptop is generally not the one who is going to do it. (no offense to nerdy guys, hell my ex was one, but they arent generally the sought after, fling, kinda guys)

For a one nighter it's all about the intensity, phsyique and confidence.

For me to actually get sexually aggressive the guy has to not seem to want or need sex. Anyone who looks more than willing to jump in the sack is just too easy.
It's always more exciting when you need to work for it a bit.

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JosephB

How'd you get my resume?

I'll have to add that part.

And that.

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meldy

Perfectly said!!

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