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She's the one you call when you're bored because she makes you laugh. She's the one you talk to when you're feeling down because she's willing to lend an ear and be a friend.

She's not the one you call when you need a date to your company's Christmas party, or to go dancing with on a Saturday night.

She's the one you spend time with between girlfriends, before you find "The One". You know, the one who you keep around in the meantime.

She's not one of the guys, not a tomboy, but you don't look at her as a "real" woman, either. She's not bitchy enough, moody enough, or sexy enough to be seen in that light. She's too laid-back, too easily amused by the same things your male buddies are amused by. She's too understanding, too comfortable - she doesn't make you feel nervous or excited the way a "real" woman does. But she's cool, and nice, and funny, and attractive enough that when you're lonely or horny and need intimate female companionship, she'll do just fine.

You don't have to wine and dine her because she knows the real you already, and you don't have any facades to keep up, no pretenses to preserve. You're not trying to get anything of substance out of her. She's not easy, but you know that she cares about you and is attracted to you, and that she'll give you the intimacy you need. And you know you don't have to explain yourself or the situation, that she'll be able to cope with the fact that this isn't the beginning of a relationship or that there's any possibility that you have any real romantic feelings for her.

It won't bother her that you'll get up in the morning, put on your pants, say goodbye, and go on a date with the woman you've been mooning over for weeks who finally agreed to go out with you. She'll settle for a goodbye hug and a promise to call her and tell her how the date went. She's just so cool . . . why can't all women be like that?! But deep down, if you really think about it (which you probably don't because to you, the situation between the two of you isn't important enough to merit any real thought), you know that it's really not fair. (life isn't fair)

You know that although she would never say it, it hurts her to know that despite all her good points and all the fun you two have, you don't think she's good enough to spend any real time with. Sure, it's mostly her fault, because she doesn't have to give in to your needs - she could play the hard-to-get bitch like the rest of them do, if she really wanted to. But you and she both know that she probably couldn't pull it off.

Whatever the reason, somehow life has given her a lot of really great qualities but has left out the ones that men want (or think they want) in a woman. So she remains forever the funny friend, the steadfast companion, the secret lover, and you go on searching for your goddess who will somehow be everything you ever wanted in a woman.

You'll joke to her that she should be the best man at your wedding, and she'll laugh and make a joke about a smelly rental tux.

She doesn't captivate you with her beauty, or open doors with her smile. Mainly she blends in with the crowd. She's safe.

She doesn't want to be the center of attention and turn the heads of everyone in the room. But she wants to turn someone's head. She wants to be special to someone, too. We all do.

She has feelings. She has a heart. In fact, she probably has a bigger and better heart than any woman you've ever known because she's had a front-row seat to The Mess That Is Your Life, and she likes you anyway. She obviously sees something worthwhile and redeeming in you because although you've given her nothing, absolutely no reason to still be around, she is.

Anyway, yeah. I'm a Meantime Girl. Been one more times than I care to admit. I don't know the reason, really, and at this point I don't even care. I just want to let every guy know who's ever had the good fortune to have a Meantime Girl that we may be a lot of fun, but we cry, too. A lot. And someday we won't be around..

Funwriter

I liked this and it made me feel a bit sorry for you.

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Paige Turner

I don't feel sorry for you. Because you're going to be one those amazing people when you do come into your own. I'm sorry you have to feel neglect and pain and lonliness, but I don't feel sorry for you. I feel sorry for the people who do this to you. The shallow ones. The vain ones. The ignorant ones.
You one-up'd janis ian.
Good, strong writing.
thumbs up.

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and a blue true dream of sky; and for everything
which is natural which is infinite which is yes

bunnybadass

It gave me the internal acheys alright, because I've been there. But somehow...one man's meantime girl is another man's goddess. I know this also from personal experience. When you're giving the one guy all the attention and being his meantime girl (i really like that term, by the way) you're unwittingly playing hard to get to another.
This piece really had a great voice and tone, and is very relatable.
-BB

space-dye-vest

heh for everyone who commented; this piece I wrote when i felt like it. I don't anymore. BB, you're right. I do feel like someone's goddess now. So, news! I'm not a meantime girl anymore ! lol

Voodoo

"I ain't no hollaback girl, ain't no hollaback girl..."
-Gwen Stefani.

I truly am glad things have improved for you.

space-dye-vest

Way improved man!

Shinn

Great stuff, Taz! yay! ^^ *hugs*

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~ Why am I...Why am I losing to someone like you? ~

Voodoo

I'm having internet connection problems again... I need help with this broadband thing, the ppoep thing, its asking for my username and password, but I don't know the service value for my isp, comcast cable... whats the service name?

space-dye-vest

*very very spaced out*

Voodoo

I got it working again, anyhow. So, woman, how's your morning, if it is morning for you?

space-dye-vest

It's night and it's crappy. Shoot-ups might just help, now that I think of it. lol

Golden

Great bit of work there, really emotive (and even more with metallicas The unforgive playing in the background, lyrics are irrelevant but what the hell)

Golden

space-dye-vest

Lol yeah, thanks for the comments =)

And I love the unforgiven!

Jolly McJollyson

The incessant wallowing in self-pity was just too much. I couldn't finish.

Would you like any cheese to go with the whine?

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