Kyrie

How would you feel if one your parents left and later you wanted to confess to your mom/dad that you're gay? Or how would you feel as a parent?

I'm not asking for a debate on whether homosexuality is okay or not, or the effects of divorce on children, I'm asking for your personal thoughts about coming out. This is for a story I'm working on and I'd like to know opinions other than mine.

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Shawn

I would do it... well, not immediately. Tension builds up and up and up until you really can't take it anymore. So you just spill.

I wouldn't know as a parent, but it appears that my parents didn't care.

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Mallignamius

If I were a parent and a child came out to me about it:

I wouldn't think anything of it, except for some worry about various hate crimes that become a possibility. I'd take a quick look at the crime rate and social attitude where I was living.

Krim

How would I feel? I don't really feel many emotions, so I wouldn't know. But I suppose a up a (probably-overused) description about coming out of the closet would be more like tripping, grabbing onto the coats, banging your knee on the doorframe, falling, discovering an old receipt in the corner of the closet and coming back in to get it, hitting your head on the doorway, falling back, getting your head lost in the coats, and then finally crawling your way out.

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mammamaia

i'm a mother of 7, grandmom of 18 [at last count], so i'll tell you how i'd feel as a parent...

first, it wouldn't matter to me, whether i was still with your father or not... i'd love you no less and be glad you told me how you really feel... i'd also be sad that you felt you couldn't tell me sooner, as it would have made no difference to me...

that said, if i was still with your father and he wasn't as comfortable with it as i would be, it might be a problem in my marriage, since i'd want him to be ok with it and not give you a hard time, but i wouldn't let it affect my relationship with you...

does that help any?

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lisajane

I'm not gay, but my dad suspects my brother to be a closet gay, and my mum kinda refuses to believe it. They're talked about it to us, said that they honestly wouldn't care.

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Archduke Robert of France

If I did that my father would probably refuse to acknowledge me as his son. If my son/daughter came out, I would be supportive.

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Kyrie

Thanks everybody! I'll have to change a few think in the story now, but I'm glad with the changes.

Thank you~

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dwspig2

My father refuses to acknowledge that I'm gay. I came out to him, and we haven't discussed the situation since.

My mother talks about my future "partner," and that's somewhat disconcerting, because she somehow over-emphasizes the word "partner" when she talks about it. I don't think she is opposed that I'm gay; I think it's the opposite, actually, and she wants to make sure that I know she is supports me 100%.

My grandmother, with whom I live, continues to believe that I'm in a phase and will "outgrow" it. She tells my mother that all the girls like me, and that I'll surely fall for one of them.

Everyone has a different take on a gay family member. There is no one, predefined way in which someone reacts to a coming out.