Did you try to change your mate, did it work? - Writers Forum

Chris71 · 10-10-2008, 03:03 PM

I have found that most people are set in their ways weather we like it or not. Some times it's personal habits, the way they drive, their choice in clothes, or one of a million other things. What's your pet peeve?

WriterDude · 10-10-2008, 03:07 PM

You can change small things over time if you really want to, but you can't make anyone else change against their will.

I always drive slightly above the speed limit for some reason. Not much, just a tiny bit. I'm a rebel.

Tiamat10 · 10-10-2008, 03:12 PM

My pet peeve in my 'mate' you mean? God, where do I start? Let's say my biggest pet peeve is his freakish desire to have all windows closed, curtains drawn, and doors locked at all times. Or maybe the fact that he's afraid to throw anything away on the off chance that he might need it at some obscure point in the future.

One or the other.

Oh, and no, he won't change. Both peeves have started many a shouting match, either because I've opened a window or thrown an empty hot dog package away.

SparkyLT · 10-10-2008, 03:20 PM

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Originally Posted by Tiamat10

My pet peeve in my 'mate' you mean? God, where do I start? Let's say my biggest pet peeve is his freakish desire to have all windows closed, curtains drawn, and doors locked at all times. Or maybe the fact that he's afraid to throw anything away on the off chance that he might need it at some obscure point in the future.

One or the other.

Oh, and no, he won't change. Both peeves have started many a shouting match, either because I've opened a window or thrown an empty hot dog package away.

*yelp* that sounds like my grandfather.

Malone · 10-10-2008, 04:27 PM

Sounds like he loves crystal meth, Tia.

RomanticRose · 10-10-2008, 04:58 PM

If I wanted to change him, I wouldn't have married him.

That being said, the only thing that really bothers me is his sloppiness in the bathroom. It's not really a problem since we have separate apartments, so that gives us separate bathrooms. I just don't have to go into his bathroom.

Chris71 · 10-10-2008, 05:15 PM

Wait a minute, let me get this clear, you married him but you have seperate
apartments. This gives togetherness a whole new meaning.

JosephB · 10-10-2008, 05:36 PM

My wife is amazingly free of annoying habits, which mean I can't come back at her with anything when she gets on my case. It's very frustrating.

Chris71 · 10-10-2008, 06:01 PM

That's what you get for marrying the perfect woman. Are you sure there's not even one tiny thing?

RomanticRose · 10-10-2008, 07:53 PM

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Wait a minute, let me get this clear, you married him but you have seperate
apartments. This gives togetherness a whole new meaning.

Well, our apartments are directly across the hall from each other. The decision is primarily financial. To get the space we would need in one apartment, it would nearly quadruple our current combined rents. For a couple of freelance writers, that just isn't a great idea.

We treat the two apartments as one, except the bathrooms. I just ignore his and he has to clean it up once a year, whether it needs it or not.

Malone · 10-10-2008, 08:16 PM

Bathrooms seem to be the bane of most men. Mine is and always has been dirty no matter where i live. Unless I'm living with a girl and she constantly cleans it and sprays it with god knows what.

PSFoster · 10-10-2008, 08:51 PM

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That's what you get for marrying the perfect woman. Are you sure there's not even one tiny thing?

She can't be perfect -- she married Joe.

Raging_Hopeful · 10-10-2008, 10:01 PM

HA! My boyfriend has this... disgusting habit of not lifting the toilet seat. He almost ALWAYS drips and then LEAVES IT. Have you ever sat down in cold pee? .... Honestly it drives me up the wall since it is such a minute and basic thing. Takes 2-3 additional seconds to lift the seat and avoid a whirlwind of grief from me.

Plus he's a pack rat and I live in a perpetual den of filth and litter because he's sloppy. Weird, I love him but our lifestyles are WAY uncompatiable. Then again, maybe that's why he's going to teach English in S. Korea. He can't stand me either

adrianhayter · 10-10-2008, 11:38 PM

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Did you try to change your mate, did it work?

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JosephB · 10-10-2008, 11:55 PM

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That's what you get for marrying the perfect woman. Are you sure there's not even one tiny thing?

Oh, and she did this just tonight. It's time to leave a party or whatever, because of the baby sitter or something, and she keeps starting new conversations with people. So I have to tell her it's time to leave at least 1/2 hour before we actually have to leave.