Malone

A bar seems more casual because co-workers do that often with no intention of having sex or dating or anything romantic. I know I've done that with just guy friends before. Just relaxing and having a few drinks and unwinding from a hard day at the office.

But if he did take it from your perspective, what guy doesn't want to get tipsy and have a girl take advantage of him?

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JosephB

Tell him you're going for a coffee, sandwich whatever, ask him to come along. If he's interested, he'll likely jump at he chance.

Really, I was always glad when a girl dropped some hint -- even if it was obvious.
Naw. Not at all. Especially if you get other folks to come along.

I dated a girl at work for a while. I will admit it was very exciting. It got very dicey when she screwed something up and wanted me to cover for her, and I wouldn't do it. She was transfered not to long after that.

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Non Serviam

Seriously--don't hint, or do the wilting flower thing where you sit around half your life wondering whether he likes you. This is the 21st century when you don't have to pee standing up to ask someone out.

Although I still think propositioning him is easier, cheaper and faster.

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JosephB

It's about getting a read. And it isn't about a woman asking a man out.

Keep in mind, this is someone you have to encounter every day. To me it's about avoiding an awkward situation, one that drags on. So testing the waters in this situation makes sense to me.

If you want to just go full bore and ask someone out without having a notion as to what the response might be, well then go for it. Just remember it could lead to uncomfortable situations. And that may not be fair to the other person.

Also, some men may be still uncomfortable having a woman ask them out. That isn't such a bad thing. These ideas are pretty ingrained. Doesn't mean he's a Neanderthal.

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tristiano

just throw off your clothes and start making out with him on his desk

- OR -

Get to know him, watch fight club at his house, see what happens.
Trying to find out if he likes you is pointless. Friends first.
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