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10-22-2006, 04:10 PM
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Wordsmith
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Originally Posted by sanctuary
stop spamming.
I think nice guys win in the long run, simple as that. And only if they are truly nice, and not posing as nice guys.
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you called me creepy, I'm not spamming. |
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10-22-2006, 04:11 PM
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#122
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Ink Slinger
Join Date: Apr 2006
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you are spamming if you arent talking about the topic.
Nice guys rule.
Sanc
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10-22-2006, 04:14 PM
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Wordsmith
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it is on topic, because some people think nice guys are creepy, I'n tired of being thought of as creepy. I dont stalk girls or anything, I just freakin hold doors open for them, and I'm helpful, but I'm helpful to everyone.
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10-22-2006, 04:15 PM
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Ink Slinger
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10-22-2006, 04:17 PM
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pliable
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Stop being so helpful and stop holding doors open. I want to shoot people who hold doors for me. Again, there's a such thing as too nice -- which could be construed as "creepy."
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10-22-2006, 04:19 PM
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#126
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Wordsmith
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Originally Posted by Hodge
Stop being so helpful and stop holding doors open. I want to shoot people who hold doors for me. Again, there's a such thing as too nice -- which could be construed as "creepy."
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it should only be creepy if there's intent behind it, and there isnt. It isnt like I hold doors open for people a mile away, I just do it as a helpful gesture for someone right behind me,typically its just passed on to them anyway because I dont want to be in their way. I cant help it if I want to help someone, should I just ignore them because it might be construed as creepy? thats a judgment problem on their part... |
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10-22-2006, 04:20 PM
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Ink Slinger
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It's not creepy doing thingslike that, only odd, because chivlary seems to have died...
You are not, I repeat, not creepy!
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10-22-2006, 04:23 PM
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Ink Slinger
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My ex was considered creepy by many, not because he was too nice (which he sort of was), but because he oozed a certain desperation to be liked.
And Hodge, holding doors open is polite.
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10-22-2006, 04:24 PM
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Wordsmith
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Originally Posted by TsuTseQ
My ex was considered creepy by many, not because he was too nice (which he sort of was), but because he oozed a certain desperation to be liked.
And Hodge, holding doors open is polite.
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I dont know if I ooze that, I honestly dont know why I seem creepy to people. I figured it was how I looked, but I just know, its kind of depressing, and doesnt help the confidence any. Perhaps its my lack of confidence that does it, would that make it self perpetuating? |
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10-22-2006, 04:27 PM
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Ink Slinger
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If you are not confident in yourself, no one else is going to be confident in you. But remember, just because you are well-liked, that doesnt make you a good person.
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10-22-2006, 04:28 PM
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Wordsmith
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never said that was true, but I certainly don't like the creepy image that I've always been tagged with.
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10-22-2006, 04:30 PM
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Ink Slinger
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well,I dont think you're creepy( I was joking before), and I'm sure there are some people who dont think you're creepy.
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10-22-2006, 04:32 PM
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Wordsmith
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Originally Posted by sanctuary
well,I dont think you're creepy( I was joking before), and I'm sure there are some people who dont think you're creepy.
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right, but I'm talking about in real life. And people making value judgments upon seeing a person irl, most people don't know me, nor do they seem to want to. Which would be fine by me except I need someone to talk to besides myself. |
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10-22-2006, 04:32 PM
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Ink Slinger
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Originally Posted by thamior
I dont know if I ooze that, I honestly dont know why I seem creepy to people. I figured it was how I looked, but I just know, its kind of depressing, and doesnt help the confidence any. Perhaps its my lack of confidence that does it, would that make it self perpetuating?
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Lack of confidence can make someone come across as untrustworthy, and, therefore, creepy. There seems to be a correlation between confidence and honesty in many people's minds (if someone is secure in what they're saying, they can't be lying, can they?). I would definitely say, a lack of confidence is self-perpetuating; think about it: if you lack confidence, people don't particularly like you, then you lack more confidence because people don't particularly like you.
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10-22-2006, 04:33 PM
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Profound Writer
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If a girl doesn't have a job its cool, but if a guy doesn't have a job its a bad thing. He's a waste of space, no good for you. He's a bum. I don't get that. And as for 'nice' guys. I don't really know what a nice guy is. I don't try to hurt or offend people, but then again I won't open a door for anyone, although i'd hold a door open(theres a difference). I don't try to fit people into these categories. I just see people who i'd like to know and people I wouldn't. Thamior if you wanna help someone thats cool, but remember that we aren't babies, some people just wanna do things for themself. And there is a vital ingredient in relationships called PERSONAL SPACE.
You shouldn't go out of your way to please others. I've learned that no matter what I do I can't please anyone. I just have to be myself and dudes gotta accept thats how I roll. Like it or leave it. Maybe you just need to swallow your gut and try to meet a new group of people who have no previous judgements placed on you.
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