Thread: Up and Down. Story of my life.

Well, it's been a rough few months and the only thing really working out is my writing. I've managed to write a good 60 pages in two week. 12,000 some words. I like it, it's going really well. Sadly, I've been pretty depressed otherwise. I've very much noticed that I'm quiet unknown to people I know, and my two best friends, well...they are playfully beating on each other, while I sit away in the corner typing. It's sad, because they are different from me, not much into reading, like I am. My friend Ben, the only thing keeping our friendship together is that were can relate to our Hell of pasts, and I don't want to be plain alone. I'm a nice guy, always trying to help, but it gets thrown back in my face. It's hard because Ben is like magic when it comes to dating and girls, me not so much. Yet the main character in my newest book can do it easily. He's very much what I would have liked to be when I started high school, same kind of back story him and I share, but he is what I would've preferred to be. Just really alone other here, always willing to talk.

As a former teenage girl, I can tell you that in my experience, the guys who were 'magic' with the girls, really set off my alarm bells and I avoided them like the plague, preffering the quiet guys who sat in the corners looking 'interesting'.

That's good to know, I just gotta find someone who like people like me. Thanks Gumby.

Want to find a girl who might appreciate a would be writer rather than an outgoing party animal? I would say don't bother too much with parties and sign up for a creative writing course and a basic computer studies course, especially the second. I would be willing to bet it is far more than half women, men's attitude won't let them admit they might learn something about computers, they know it all, women don't actually like that sort of man much.

That makes sense. What about a writing critic group, maybe. Would that work?

Suck it and see, even if you don't meet the girl of your dreams you may well meet interesting people and learn something.
The best women I ever met were all when I was off doing something else. I reckon it goes that they see someone who is interested and active and think "He might be fun". In terms of real relationships rather than one night stands (and maybe even then) it is the girl who decides what is happening and the fella takes the chances offered. If you go about life being a decent person one of them will think "I'll have him", if you go looking for dates and one night stands, well that sort of person is all right for a bit of fun, but girls wouldn't want to be stuck with him, they know he won't change.

Big confidence boost you gave me. Thanks Olly.

Most people's lives are up and down, Will...it's not just you, hon....girls like different...you just keep pounding out your story and stay sweet and helpful...you don't have to look for her, she will find you..

Right, thanks for that. Just gotta wait, I guess. In the end it'll work out.

Don't think about it too much Will. Like the others have said stay true to who you are. Keep going with your interests. Someone will find you.
To agree with Gumby, I too avoided the loud "charmers" alot of the time they seemed very fake.
Just be yourself and that someone will show up

From a girl's point of view, you sound a lot more likable than your friends, like an intelligent writer type rather than simply "magic" with girls.
Trust me, you're the guy that's going to get an intelligent girl rather than the dumb ones. Hang in there.

I'm agreeing with the others here, jut hang in there and She'll come to you.

I was with this lad for 5 or 6 months, and I met him at school, he was quiet, and just sat down and did his work - top of the class grades and everything, and the girls were all over him.

Girls - well smart girls who want a lasting relationship - usually tend to go for the quiet, shy ones, because you know that can be trusted and once you get to know them they can be a right laugh.

I know I don't know you, but you seem like a nice lad. Try what Olly said, join a CW class or something - not only will it help you alot, but you will meet new friends and you may even find a nice girl - nothing to loose, right?

All the best
FG xx