Thread: -sighs- confusing week and IT'S MONDAY!!!! (9-20-10)

Where shall I start? How about falling head over heels for an older man that you met on here about a month ago, try hiding the fact that he wants to marry you from your mother and he posted it all over the net last night? And your lovely mother saw it at 7am this morning, shaking you awake, asking if it was true, and you are giving her a weird look, asking her, "What the heck are you talking about?" She grabbed me out to the living room, where her laptop always is, and pointed at Fox's Facebook status, "Jess wants to be my wife. There is no way in hell I deserve this. No way. No... effing... way. Whatever Higher Power is out there... thank you."

I gasped out loud and started to cry, I did say yes to him but I didn't know he would post it all over his dang wall. Mom looked at me and said, "Explain this, Jess. What is going on? Thanks to Keith, I saw this." Keith is Mom's new boyfriend and he really cares about her kids like he's own. (Dang Keith.)

Well, that's what I woke up to this morning, great huh? I didn't even have my coffee this morning and she is asking me questions one after the other and I wasn't even fully awake.

I am just trying to figure out what I really want right now.

Wow! I couldn't imagine that happening to me.

If you decide to go through with it, then congratulations!

thanks. I am stil thinking about it.

I can imagine it being a hard choice. Don't know if I could make up my mind after just one month

it is really hard. but he is alot different then the other jerks that I dated, but who knows. right? how would you know everything about a guy in a month... right???

Originally Posted by Jessalynn Barnum

it is really hard. but he is alot different then the other jerks that I dated, but who knows. right? how would you know everything about a guy in a month... right???

I honestly don't know. I've (obviously) not been in that position before, lol.

But something my mom said to my brother when he mentioned that he thought people should wait a year or two before getting married was "If you know she is the one, why wait?"

Jess, when you get married you tell the whole world about your relationship, that's what getting married is. Like Kang's Mum said "Why wait if you know she's the one?". On the other hand if there is a little, teeny doubt hang on a while until you do know one way or the other. Keith sound nice, your mum is lucky, that's the sort of man you want, one who cares and looks out for you and yours.

Okay, so I may be the bad penny here.

Jess, you can't know him in a month. Just about anyone can keep their best foot forward for a month on the internet. No disrespect intended to Fox but I really think that slowing things down a bit would be healthier than diving into a lifelong commitment to someone who you have not even begun to know...much less begun to find out how they really think and behave.

Have you made him angry yet? Do you agree on how you'll raise any children you'll have? Do you know if he wants kids or not? Do you agree with what he wants? How will mundane things like household chores be handled once you're married? For everything you think you know about a person you just met there are ten, twenty, one hundred things you don't know. Do they pay their taxes? How do they behave in an argument? Etc.

It's better to consider these things now, before you make the commitment, than after when your only option is to live with them.

To Foxee,

I understand you and even before I read your commeent, I decided to put the breakes on, to a stop. Don't worry Fox80 and I are still close friends and whatnot, we just decided (or mainly I did...) that we shoud take it really slow and see what happens, no more jumping the gun. I feel really bad for hurting Fox80's feelings but we were moving WAY too fast. I just hope he understands that.

I do still have feeings for him, I just want to slow things down just a bit.

Olly,

Thanks, Keith is an amzing guy, my mom is very lucky. Like me and Fox80, they met on the computer, they started talking about a month ago and two weekends ago, they met. They cicked really well. Keith is a single dad of two teens, they are his life, just like my mom's life is her 2 girls. I really like Keith way better then my soon-to-be NOT step father, Steve.

Steve never showed that he cared about me, like Keith is showing me right now. Keith askes me how is my story going and sees if I need any help on it, he lets me barrow his vampire books and hard rock c.ds and we get along great!!!! I can honestly see him being my step father in a few years.