Thread: Alcohol and moving out.

My mum has been drinking every day for years, and I finally had enough of it on Monday. On her way back from a party she fell and broke her nose, lost a tooth. I mean she was literally unrecognizable, bottle of Vodka in her right hand.

So Tuesday comes around, and she's acting as if nothing has happened, bottle of wine on the table with her mates round, all talking utter shit of course. She starts talking about my sister to these harpy's, about her private life, and I got pretty angry. I escorted her "friends" out of the house, I smashed every single bottle of alcohol I could find, destroyed my room (that was great) and went to bed. She didn't say a word and had some coffee, sobered up a bit and fell asleep. I think she had taken poppers as well or something but I'm not sure. Her eyes were so wide, that was pretty scary. She looked absolutely schizo.

I was doing something on WF when I heard crying at about four in the morning on the same day. I go downstairs, she's weeping, saying she's sorry about all the drunken nights, saying she'll never drink again etc. I believe her, like a total fool and start crying too.

So today (about three hours ago) I'm watching Goodfellas with my sis, she walks into my room, totally drunk and starts screaming at my sister for nothing. I started to phone the police but my sister stopped me (What!?) and so now I'm leaving tomorrow. No more lies, really don't need that.

I know these problems aren't exactly important, but it's annoying when it basically sucks the life out of you.

This has helped quite a lot actually, writing it out. It can only get better from here eh? I'm still alive.

take yer sister with ya...you dont wnant her ot live with a drunk.

ur being a man...i'm supporting you all the way.

Thanks a lot mate.

I wouldn't go anywhere without my sister, she doesn't need that crap either, you're right.

Just hope I'm doing the right thing.

Sorry to hear things have been like this, Bruno, and it certainly IS important. Good advice to take your sister with you. Doing the right thing? I think so...if your mother doesn't want to change things, she won't and you'll be stuck in the same situation until you do move out. It's now or it's later...it might as well be now.

Thank you Foxee, that's made me feel a bit more sure of myself. I probably should have left a long time ago, but you always seem to think someone is redeemable, especially a member of your family.

Naivety on my part, but it is now or later. Actions speak louder than words, clearly

I don't think you have to look at moving out as giving up on her, really. That might be what it takes to shake her into a realization that she's living in a destructive way.

It can be really difficult to leave a bad situation when it's with someone close to you like that. I hope you have somewhere good to go.

Good for you. Enough is enough. I hope things are better for you when you're out. Yeah, take your sis with you. You guys need each other. Hopefully your mom'll snap out of it and get some help on her own.

Thank you Dream, I really hope so. If her own son begging her to stop isn't enough, then something has to change, fast.

I don't have anywhere to go right now, I haven't sorted anything out but it wont be a problem. It's sad that I have so many options and there are people living on the streets with no help at all. Puts it into perspective but, I'm glad I have people to talk to about it.

This is all making me want to do charity work to be honest, and I might just do that.

Ahh *Hug* What a horrible thing for you to have to deal with.

You're too young in my eyes to have to do that, but I imagine you've had to be a lot more mature than others your age because of your Mums.
And that will serve you will in times like these.

You have support here. I'm sure some people will know what you're going through. I have a couple of friends with alcoholic parents.
If you can get out it might be the thing to get your mum out of her rut. She needs help though, for sure, there's very little chance she can just say she's done and be done with it, I don't think. Support like AA would be a great step. She obviously knows she has a problem. It's just getting her to face it.

Exactly Fox, but it's a step she's going to have to take on her own.

We all have problems, but I'm not sure I can help this one. The best thing I can do is move away, for my sister's welfare. If I carry on like this then, I'm going down with the ship.

It's just getting her to face it. It's the most difficult part. She pretends to "wake up" and it goes back to normal.

*hugs back*

Thanks.

Sometimes you've just got to think about yourself. I get that. *hug* Hope it works out.

It's funny, I'm not even worried about what happens to me. I'm just worried about my family you know? (My sister, and my dog Boycie lol)

Two hugs eh, I'm lovin' this

You should be worried about your sister, and your mom, too.

Where does your dad fall into this picture, if he's in the picture at all? You don't have to answer that if you don't want to, of course.

Oh no that's fine, he left when I was two. I still see him weekends, but he's an ignorant Italian racist bigot, and I'm glad he left

I love my mum with all my heart, that's why it hurts so much.

I'm really sorry about that. Feel free to PM if you want to talk at all or you just want to vent something out. Venting's good.