Thread: Will it ever get better?

This week has ended as every other week these past two months. I am totally drained, I moved in (temporarily) to sit with my grandmother while my mother works...that's right, I gave up my part time job to help her. I don't mind so much, I have money and my bills are paid, it's just that other issues are creeping in. I am finding that I am taking on more and more responsibility. I am the house keeper, the mentor, the up lifter, the confidant, the motivator, not to mention I am planning my own wedding and handling my own business affairs. I love my family, I do but I think I might have taken on too much. I wish I could take a step back and breathe a little bit. Maybe next week will be better for me.

Geez, that is a lot, it would be easy to feel overwhelmed. Even just planning the wedding would be a lot (congratulations on that, btw!) so I think you're pretty amazing to be juggling this much. Though I had to chuckle:

I am the house keeper, the mentor, the up lifter, the confidant, the motivator,

It sounds like you're in training to be a mom. Let me know how many ribbons you break at your shower.

hahaha...thanks for the smile! I should add that I am a mother. I have children with my ex-husband but because of all this, my youngest is staying with his dad this year. Funny note, I told my finance, who has no children, NOOO more for me, I might give in though. Still, I am going to be very careful with those ribbons.

Hey congrats, chim. Yeah, life gets awfully complicated sometimes. But it sounds like good things are ahead.

I am the house keeper, the mentor, the up lifter, the confidant, the motivator,

Yeah, that's a mom all right. I know where we'd be if I was running things. Living under a bridge, probably.

Thanks Joe, after reading your post I had to laugh! Your wife is lucky that you have the good sense to know your limits.
With my children all that just comes naturally...but with grown adult people, one would think they had it figured out by now. I keep asking myself, at what point didn't they get it? Oh well, at least I can laugh about it here, Lord forbid I laugh in front of my grandmother. In her best southern accent I'd get asked, "What the hell is so damn funny"? *sigh*

Ha ha. Reminds me of what my wife says when she's frustrated with me: "I don't have two children, I have three!"

We're pretty much the stereotypical sitcom family: Smart wife -- clueless father. In fact, I was just telling someone, my wife reminds me of the long-suffering mom on "Home Improvement."

Oh lord...it keeps getting better and better, my mom just arranged for me to fill in for an engagement she was suppose to oversee. Now I have to go, get dressed, and be out of here in 30 minutes. Really??? Is that even possible???

You'll manage!

hehehe...thanks for the vote of confidence, Alanmt. Honestly, you were right, I did manage...though I was slightly under dressed.

Congrats on the wedding to come! I just went to my sister's and it was fun and too sweet. Hoping yours is fabulous too!

Thank you kindly, Eluixa, I am happy. I have been so bogged down, I haven't been able to enjoy the planning these past few months. The congrats bring the excitement back just a bit...okay, okay, they make me smile.

i took a vacation to India once, and when i did, i stayed at my grandparent's house. It just so happened that my aunt was getting married. Since the wedding was going to be outside my grandparent's house, she was staying there. For the two weeks until that wedding, she was a total bridezilla. She literally yelled at everyone and anyone, even the dog. She was fine afterwards, but by god, just don't go into bridezilla mode.

good luck as well.

LOL...No worries, I am enjoying the process too much to become a bridezilla. As for everything else, maybe that's what I need, a few weeks vacation. Oh well...I'll have to wait for the honeymoon.

We're are you going on your honeymoon?

And we had a bun in the oven -- so we planned the wedding on the fly. My wife didn't have time to become bridezilla.

We are going to Key West and take a yacht out (thank you Uncle Paul) for almost a week and then come back to the island, stay at this really cool resort for the remaining weekend, and do absolutely nothing. I can't wait!!!

The wedding is going to be quiet, a few close friends and family...followed by a cool weekend party. I hope Jacksonville is ready for us!!