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10-05-2008, 03:34 AM
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Ink Slinger
Join Date: Mar 2006
Location: Montana
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I broke up with my girlfriend
and I kind of feel bad now.
The thing is, I take 19 credits per semester and work 30+ hours a week. I thought I had some free time to spend with a "girlfiend" but now I realize I don't have time to do diddly crap. I'm always at school, studying, at work, at bible study, or trying to spend time with my parents at times. With graduation coming up in May and getting grad school all set up, I just don't have the time, energy, or commitment right now for a girlfriend. My weeks are so packed with things to do that I actually feel bad that I don't spend much time with her or have time to talk on the phone that long.
She knew I was leaving in May and that are relationship wasn't going to really go anywhere. I don't think she would want to pack up and move away from her home just to be with me anyways. But I just figured it was better to end the relationship 2 months in, instead of 6 months in. It would be easier now for both of us.
So she cried a little, knew how I felt about everything, and didn't want to talk about it all that much. We went for a short walk around town and hopefully now I can focus more on just school and keeping my nose clean. She is really a nice person and someone I would like to be with. However, after 2 months I still don't feel "in love" with her. So I think it was a good idea to end things now, rather than later.
Ty
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10-05-2008, 03:39 AM
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Mentor
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You should have kept her around for sex until you were physically gone. Knowing yourself that it wasn't going anywhere, you could have just strung her along and not put any work into the relationship since you had nothing to lose.
Or you did the right thing. Whichever.
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10-05-2008, 03:52 AM
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Ink Slinger
Join Date: Mar 2006
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This was a nice girl. Not someone I would just use for sex. However, it seems like women have been using me all summer for sex, which was alright with me. I know plenty of other women I will probably hook up with in the near future. So that isn't really the issue. This girl I just broke up with is like 4 years younger than me and I didn't really feel like treating her like that.
Good suggestion, though.
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10-05-2008, 10:03 AM
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Prolific Writer
Join Date: Feb 2008
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I have a friend who just did this. Both he and his ex are great friends now, and they understand that it was for the best. He's one seriously busy guy.
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10-05-2008, 10:09 AM
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Profound Writer
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Ty, I think you did the right thing, it shows just how mature and focused you are....if you didn't feel the "love" for her now you probably wouldn't have later either...and you are right, it would have been harder on her in 6 months....and Matt, not everyone uses a women for sex you know.....some are gentleman and really care about other people's feelings....
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10-05-2008, 10:12 AM
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Ink Slinger
Join Date: Mar 2007
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Ty, I once wasn't able to even visit my girlfriend for almost a whole year. Every day was really painful for both of us, but we made it as we knew as we could talk to each other in other ways. Phone, letters etc. Besides, we knew it would only be about a year anyway, and if we could make it through that, we had the rest of our lives together. It just depends on how mature the two of you are and what you want from your relationship. 
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10-05-2008, 04:58 PM
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Mentor
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I was being sarcastic earlier, just so everyone doesn't think I'm a jerk. My little brother is about to start law school and he broke up with his girlfriend for the same reasons as Ty, and I told him the same thing I said above. My brother got the joke. I guess sarcasm comes across clearer in real life.
My brother ended up getting back together with his girl, though.
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10-06-2008, 12:47 AM
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Ink Slinger
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10-06-2008, 12:48 AM
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10-07-2008, 06:21 PM
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Adept Writer
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Quote:
Originally Posted by The Backward OX
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my thoughts exactly |
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