The intro is too large (over 20,000) so I had to break it in half.
here's the rest of the intro.
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The Label
What on earth am I talking about a label? You must wonder by now. To cut the chase, here’s what label stands for.
L stands for Line
A stands for Actor
B stands for Business
E stands for Exception
L stands for Look
The label I’m talking about is something women desire and want from men but don’t openly talk about it. Instead, they put that on the labels that most of the men are too third-eye blind to see. Women are different from men. Sure, we all know that much already, but how? How are they just different? Why won’t she just tell me what she wants? If you have asked these questions before, you have been asking the wrong questions all along. The problem with figuring out what she wants by forcing her to speak is that even if she tells you what she wants, you have already lost the chance to launch pre-emptive strikes in your battles to win her love giving her the impression that you don’t love her deep enough to catch on the things that she wants. Pre-emptive strikes have the element of surprise, and boy, do women love surprises or what. That is why it is important to know what she wants before she puts down the fork at the dinner table and gives you that look and says “Honey, I think we need a talk….” Let’s face it. We as men sometimes can be stupid enough to gawk and say “What? I said that on our honeymoon?”. There goes a swollen goose dropping on her head, knocking off what dangles so desperately in her heart, her love for you.
L stands for Line
Don’t go back to the line.
There are two lines men can stand in when they want to present themselves to the women they like, one special and one regular. These lines are somewhat portrayed in some reality T.V. shows. Who ever she picks out of the regular line full of men goes to the special line and becomes her special guy. If you’re picked and your dream to be with her comes true, there are two things you must know about.
First, you must realize that you’re no longer standing in the other line where there are hundreds of men dying to get a shot at your girl. What this mean is that if you’re a special guy to her, live up to that name. For example, when you give her compliments, avoid being ordinary. Compliments without affection are tedious. Give it a little twist to ordinary compliments and make it unique to let her feel that she has the exclusive rights to the compliments. Your being her special guy has no meanings when she can hear the same thing from her boss at work. Instead of saying “You look great in that blue dress”, do the twist and say “You wear that blue dress like sky does” or ask her to jiggle her butt a little and when she does say “Dang girl! You wriggle like a tropical fish in that ocean blue dress!” (I know it’s cheesy) The problem with the men who don’t realize the change in their stance is that they are directionless, tend to sidetrack and get moved back to the regular line, hence, loosing the women they dreamed to be with when they first stood in the line. Once, you have joined the special line, cut it half and throw away your frequent mileage card to the other line. The plane has already landed and now you’re free to move around in her heart.
The second thing you must know about when you’re picked to stand in the special line is that there is no other guy standing in your line but you. This is where the infamous mind-boggling issue of trust comes in. Take a breath and visualize the next. You’re standing in the wide open area and she is standing right in front of you. Far away from your right is a whole bunch of people, mostly guys, standing in line. Since it is human nature to have doubts, you look around yourself once or twice to see if she has picked another man besides you. Unless the mind plays a trick on you, you will clearly see that there’s no one else standing in your line. After you cleared out the doubts, stay focused to her. If you keep looking at the other line, what you’re saying to her is “I don’t trust you” You don’t look at the other line but keep looking around, she will think that you’re looking for some other girl. If you try to look over her shoulder to see what is behind her is like saying “I can’t trust you. Are you cheating on me behind my back?” If you’re blind and can’t see, don’t worry. She will take your hand walk down the line with you to assure you. There is another problem bound to happen when you’re picked, the Monday night football get together, missing the bachelor life issue. You wonder “Why can’t she just hang out with her girl friends while I hang out with my friends?” Well, the problem is that hanging out with the boys means the absence in the special line, a temporary hole in her heart. This is one of the most common problem in a marriage and a risky one. Some guy might scoot right in during your absence, she will look for a replacement and something to close up that hole like shopping, eating and so on. If that something is as coherent as alcohol is coherent to addiction, it will become permanent and things will never be the same. If you let that hole grow in size, she needs much bigger and stronger substance till neither you nor her can do anything about it.
In mathematic, a line is defined as the shortest distance from one point to another. You don’t need to be Steve Hawkins to see now that in love, the line is the shortest distance from one heart to another.
A for Actor
Life is like a movie.
And we star in it so we’re all walking on the Hollywood Walk of Fame. Since everyone on the face of the planet plays a role in the movie called life, no one in this world can be an audience or critics of one another and the movie without the audience is meaningless. That’s why it is important to have some kind of audience. In my case, the best and the most important audience lives up above the ground, the best seat, applauding and criticizing my performance. He paid for my ticket and it is only fair that I perform my best, at least decent enough to avoid the refund on the ticket.
My wife likes Brad Pitt. I like him too. I’m not good at acting though. That’s why I have a great respect for all the actors and actress. Some women have as many shoes as men have clothes if not more. This is a great indication that women like varieties. I’m sure there are many and one way men can show his variety is through his acting. This is a delicate issue for if you misinterpreted the concept, you’ll be likely to be looked at as a dishonest man. There are number of reasons why men need to be a good actor. We have looked at one just before. If you like role-playings in the sack, there goes another reason why it’s good to be a good actor. If you’re watching a medieval movie at home and engaged in a conversation with your wife, what the heck, talk to her like you’re a man from the medieval time. Who knows, she might laugh. One common acting all men face is when they’re asked to answer “Honey, do I look fat?” How she feels heavily depends on your acting skills and the ability to turn ordinary comment to exclusiveness. Being an actor also means playing the role of villain well because if she doesn’t know the dark side of you, she won’t be attracted to the light side of you. Darkness has the inborn force to draw and if you know how, you can use it to attract women. It’s impossible to list all the reasons but knowing when to be an actor is as much important as being a good one. Timing, as for all other things in our lives, is what keeps the goodwill-intended acting from plunging down to the other side. If you know when to say yes or no, then you already have some acting skills. Here are some tips.
First and foremost, you must not act when a matter of trust is at stake.
Let’s say your wife asks about the lunch you had with a female co-worker. Suddenly, you want to make her jealous. So you put on your acting mask and brag about how nice and refreshing it was to have a lunch with someone new. Cowdy-ding-dong!, you just risked planting a seed of suspicion in her mind. This is a common mistake all men make Making her jealous to want you more is short-sighted, and the things that you don’t think too much of a big deal in your jokes about her will turn in to a big deal. There are many things you can do to make her want you more. Try not to risk it too much.
Don’t act on an empty stomach.
Eat first. First thing first. Know your priorities. If she asked you to take out the trash an hour ago but you’re still impersonating Chris Rock throwing jokes to make her laugh, think again. Sometimes, hunger can drive men to say stupid things. “What? The dinner is not ready yet?” “Fix me a sandwich, double on the turkey” Don’t make these things the first thing you say to your wife after sitting down on a sofa after coming home from work. Your wife has been waiting for you to come home as long as you have been working all day. If she can wait all that long, do you not owe it to your wife to wait 15 minutes and talk with her before you rush to the dinner table? Isn’t it better to give her the impression that you car for her day instead of making her feel like a live-in housemaid the first thing she feels from you at home from work? It only takes few minutes. Act like you’re fasting when you just arrived at your home from work, because once you do so, I guarantee you that she will have the most delicious dish ready for you richly marinated with her secret recipe, the love.
Don’t act when in doubt.
As some guy in a movie said, the assumption is the mother of all screw-ups. Assuming things will never get you any where. You can anticipate to participate with her, but you can’t assume to assure anything. Whether acted in good ormischievous, if you’re not sure of the outcome, think twice before you do so. Acting without being aware of how she feels can give you a headache, something worse than your sinus pain.
Don’t act in fear
People are driven by fear.
A peer pressure, avoiding conversation with your partner, devotion to one thing are all driven by fear. There’s no shame in being afraid, but ironically, shame usually emerges out of our fear-driven acts. The reason could be the fact that fear can cause you to turn away from the truth. You can lie and tell her she doesn’t look fat in fear of hurting her feelings, but you’re only adding to the momentum to the impact when the truth is finally revealed like a bomb. Don’t be afraid to say she looks fat. It is easier to tell her the truth, fight the cause by her side together to shield her from the aftereffects than to give her a sweet-talk but shield yourself when the bomb is dropped on her from the outside world. Remember, acting is nature-grown, not fear-grown.
Don’t over act
Some people say too much of a good thing is never really a good thing, save for the love. Well, it is true and is true for your acting as well. There are lines to be drawn in acting and when you cross that line over, it’s called over acting. The problem with guys who over act don’t know where to draw the lines with the rest of the things in life. A good case for over acting is a guy who seems to never take things seriously. Ask him “Is everything a joke to you?” and he will laugh because even the question is a joke to him. No one has the right to stop him from being the way he is but it is this his free will that isolates him which in turn, no women can get close enough to feel intimacy.
Acting with confidence and openly are also good guide lines. Actors are very passionate about their role. You, too, can show your passions and affection to her through your acting.
B for Business
Your wife is your business.
And everything else falls below it. She is your V.I.P. and the core principle for your company policies. If you don’t take care of the business, the company will go down and so will the marriage. Breaking the company policies means breaking the wedding vows, and she is the one business where down-sizing must be avoided at all costs. Over-expansion means you’re bubbling her all up with empty promises. If you consider you’re self as business-oriented, highly qualifying candidate and were preparing the interview for the C.E.O. at one of the fortune 500 hundreds but have not thought about what I have just showed in comparison, I strongly recommend that you reflect on it before you take a shot at that fancy leather chair.
Men will put on the best suit he’s got at a board meeting and put on a t-shirt when eating out with his wife at a local restaurant. Being comfortable in what you wear is one thing, getting too comfortable and forgetting who you’re escorting outside is another. Always remember that she is the V.I.P. Treat her like a patron who can sign that billion dollar contract over and over. You’re in 24/7 business now, so stay sharp.
E for Exception
Make an exception for her.
If you have a very important lunch with your client and your wife really needs you to drive her to a shopping mall, then do it. You need to let her know that she’s the sticky on top of your to-do list, not a check box that gets rolled over to the next day. Making an exception often requires a sacrifice, small or big. The bible says love is sacrifice and the God is love itself. A sacrifice doesn’t mean giving up something in order to fulfill something, that’s a trade. It’s not a bank C.D. which its interests returns are insured by FDIC.
Making an exception doesn’t mean breaking the rule. Hearts are not bounded by rules no matter how firmly you stand by them. No worldly things are constant, it is foolish to be immoveable in decision. A glass-thin flexibility is much stronger than a concrete wall. Show that you’re willing to make an exception, go the extra miles just for her because she is the bread-and-butter for your job, and the success of your career won’t come from the outside but starts within the little cubicle called marriage.
L for Look
She’s got the look.
And she wants you to look at her looks. Have you ever answered your wife she looks great and yet there’s still a look of is-that-all lingering on her face? Have you ever thought about why she asks how she looks every time she puts on an outfit? Well, what men don’t realize is that the word look is a plural for women. When women ask you a question, it’s probably a zipped file. You can’t run zipped files till you unzip them. In a same way, unzip the question before you run it through your brain. Don’t know how to unzip it? Don’t worry. You’re on the right track and this book will help you learn how to unzip it.
When the word look is used by women, you have to consider all the prepositions possible. For instances, looking at your wife in that new dress is different from looking for your wife in the new dress. You can see that she looks beautiful in it but you won’t see that it’s more than a dress that makes her beautiful in it unless you look for it, and if you don’t, you’d probably say the same thing to the girl next door in same dress. The saying ‘the beauty is in the eyes of the beholder’ is a dangerous pitfall for all husbands because its truth is intoxicating enough to cause men to focus on the inner beauty. The problem is that some women are equally concerned about their outer beauty, if not more. When men don’t realize this balance of beauty – it’s different for men - they would yell at their wives on a $1,000 eye-lifting cosmetic bill. You need to understand that a lot of women think the vitalizing beauty they once had in their youth diminishes as they age. They think the beauty is like a flower that blossoms and withers. This is not entirely true and it is your job to let her know the remaining truth. A flower is beautiful because it can charm your heart, not just it is in a full blossom. As long as she keeps her charms, she is in her autumn blossom. Do your job.
Looking at your wife puts you in a driver seat. How thoroughly you look will scout out the bumps and pits in the road ahead. If you side to side, expect a bumpy ride, if you don’t keep your eyes on the road, that will be the end of your ride.
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It looks like I have to break in three parts.
sorry for the inconvience.
