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SparkyLT · 07-11-2008, 05:53 PM

after that nothing I say will seem intelligent, so I'll say something stupid but true:

I've never been on a date of any kind, nor do I see any in my future.

guys my age are immature. I beg you all to prove me wrong. actually, I did meet a really mature 19-year old, but he was still too old for me, at 14. damn, and he had a good singing voice too.

Sam Winchester · 07-11-2008, 05:54 PM

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Originally Posted by GhostingReality101

1. No

2. Yes

If you really want to get to know a person then one of the best ways is through a Question and Answer session where no question is off limits. Answering questions might only reveal half the things about a person. In order to learn all the other things that make up a person spending personal time with them is the only way.

There are two experiences which I would hope a woman could share with me. If she is not comfortable sharing them with me before a relationship really starts then I am not sure a relationship would be worth it.

1. Menstruation

2. Orgasm

If a woman is not open with me about her menstural cycle and isnt comfortable letting me watch her mensturate that is not good. Even though it is an extremely personal experience for her, something as basic as that should be able to be shared without a problem. There would be no point in having sex with a woman later on if I couldn't be trusted or she wasnt comfortable enough sharing a natural part of who she is.

If a woman is willing to give herself an orgasm while I am watching or at least masturbate while I am watching it helps to understand that she is comfortable with herself. I think anyone getting into a relationship should be given the chance to sit back and just watch the other person pleasure themself.

Here are other experiences I think people should share in getting to know each other before starting a relationship.

Sleeping with each other (no sex just sleep in the same bed) Do this without clothing and with clothing a few different times.

Taking showers
Going to the bathroom in front of each other
Cooking together
Being around each other in the nude
Hanging around doing very little (that way the most boring everyday situations can be looked at to see how two people get along by just being around)

Spending time with each others family
Driving around, going shopping, running errands
Going with the other person to doctors appointments

Now if all that works out two people could then start going out with each other on more formal dates.

This is the most inane, pointless bullshit I've ever heard. Is there actually a brain in that head of yours, or is there just a hollow lump of wood designed to keep you from falling over? Could you possibly be more of a naive, foolish little boy? Honestly, I've never heard such tripe in all my life.

The Backward OX · 07-11-2008, 06:34 PM

There’s two possibilities about Ghosting.

One, he’s seriously sociopathic. The type of guy who might be a serial axe murderer in real life.

Two, he’s just your average li’l ol' Californian.

SparkyLT · 07-11-2008, 06:45 PM

I'm glad I'm on the east coast, if so...

The Backward OX · 07-11-2008, 06:47 PM

All you people talking about how to get to know someone and you're all missing the most potent, and obvious, link of all.

How about good old-fashioned chemistry?

When that rears its ugly head there's no stopping the relationship from developing.

JosephB · 07-11-2008, 06:49 PM

Honestly, Ghosting for some reason, I feel oddly sympathetic.

WARNING: If you stick to this theory, you will die alone. My guess is you won't, because the first time you try to put it into practice, the reaction of the poor unsuspecting women will tell you she thinks you are a freak.

(Sound of harp, screen goes wavy and blurry)

"Nice weather we're having isn't it?"

"Why, yes."

"Say, when's your period?"

"What the fuck?"

"Well, I thought it might be nice if I could watch you menstruate. That is, if you aren't busy."

"Get away from me you pervert."

"Wait! Don't run. If you aren't up for that, how about if I watch you masturbate? I'll order a pizza.

"I'm calling the cops."

(Woman runs away. Ghosting looks puzzled.)

Writ-with-Hand · 07-11-2008, 06:53 PM

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Originally Posted by Sam Winchester

This is the most inane, pointless bullshit I've ever heard.

But boy was it funny! I laughed my ass off with that post. I mean I haven't laughed that good, a deep down gut laughter, in a long time. Ghost made my day with that. Hell I didn't even finish reading the whole thing I was laughing so hard.

Writ-with-Hand · 07-11-2008, 06:56 PM

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Originally Posted by The Backward OX

All you people talking about how to get to know someone and you're all missing the most potent, and obvious, link of all.

How about good old-fashioned chemistry?

When that rears its ugly head there's no stopping the relationship from developing.

For a man doesn't that simply come down to a woman that's willing to make him a sandwich and give him a blowjob, daily?

JosephB · 07-11-2008, 07:28 PM

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How about good old-fashioned chemistry?

On our first date, my wife and I did that experiment where the egg gets sucked into the bottle. Then we made invisible ink.

The Backward OX · 07-11-2008, 07:45 PM

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Originally Posted by GhostingReality101

There are two experiences which I would hope a woman could share with me. If she is not comfortable sharing them with me before a relationship really starts then I am not sure a relationship would be worth it.

1. Menstruation

On the other hand, it could be ok, provided you're prepared to reciprocate and let her watch you study your nose-pickings before you lick your finger clean.

Tiamat10 · 07-11-2008, 08:15 PM

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Originally Posted by JosephB

On our first date, my wife and I did that experiment where the egg gets sucked into the bottle. Then we made invisible ink.

What's that about eggs getting sucked into bottles...?

The Backward OX · 07-11-2008, 08:27 PM

filthy-minded little tramp

GhostingReality101 · 07-11-2008, 08:56 PM

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Originally Posted by JosephB

First, I'm not sure you aren't joking.

If not, good luck friend. I think that chances are slim to none that a women won't run to the door if you haven't established any sort of relationship and you start talking about menstruation or asking her to masturbate.

How has this worked for you so far? Or is this just some fucked up theory of yours?

Once again this is no joke.

To clarify it would not be one sided, each person would get to be as open and honest as the other. As an example if I asked a woman to let me watch her pee, she could ask the same thing of me. If one person wanted to watch the other shower, then the person showering should be able to watch the other person shower. Any question asked be one person would be able to be asked by the other. Likely there would be a few no topic off limits Q and A sessions before either person asks the other to share with them a personal experience such as masturbating.

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Originally Posted by Tiamat10

So... basically to sum that whole thing up, you want a woman to forgo any sense of privacy while she's getting to know you. Then, after she's earned the right to keep things from you, you'll be willing to accept it.

That about it?

Yeah, good luck.

I mean, think about it. I like to think I have a pretty healthy sexual attitude, but no way in hell would I masturbate in front of a potential boyfriend as part of an evaluation process. Some time into the relationship, we can open that door, but not right from the off. Nor would I have a pee just to prove I'm cool with him watching.

If someone agrees to reveal a certain bit of information or show the other person something normally private. That other person should be willing to do the same or something equal. Once someone reveals or does something and discovers the other person isnt willing to do the same, thats a bad start to any relationship.

No one should have any reason to keep things from their partner in a relationship.

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Originally Posted by 2.0

Yeah, I'm curious about that too. It kind of creeps me out to think of a guy I don't know all that well (or even a guy I do know) asking me to masturbate and/or bleed.

Edit: The only time my husband is in the bathroom while I'm peeing is if he's taking a shower, or I'm incredibly drunk and he's standing there with something for me to puke into.

It shouldnt creep you out, the really funny thing is that people are willing to have one night stands with other people. Yet something so simple as letting a person you don't know watch you pee is creepy? Sex is likely the most personal experience that two people can share, but still people are willing to meet up with others to have sex.

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Originally Posted by Sam Winchester

This is the most inane, pointless bullshit I've ever heard. Is there actually a brain in that head of yours, or is there just a hollow lump of wood designed to keep you from falling over? Could you possibly be more of a naive, foolish little boy? Honestly, I've never heard such tripe in all my life.

It is a very logical process that cuts out the utter bullshit found in dating. In order to find out who someone really is, ask them tough questions and have them share personal expereinces. No time would be wasted getting into a relationship if people were honest from the start.

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Originally Posted by The Backward OX

There’s two possibilities about Ghosting.

One, he’s seriously sociopathic. The type of guy who might be a serial axe murderer in real life.

Two, he’s just your average li’l ol' Californian.

Hmmm...I pick possibility three.

In ways I am an average californian, but I am not afraid of looking at different view points that people may not commonly hold.

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Originally Posted by The Backward OX

On the other hand, it could be ok, provided you're prepared to reciprocate and let her watch you study your nose-pickings before you lick your finger clean.

That would not be a problem

The Backward OX · 07-11-2008, 09:21 PM

Have you been tested for AS?

GhostingReality101 · 07-11-2008, 09:39 PM

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Originally Posted by The Backward OX

Have you been tested for AS?

I don't know. what is AS?