But time had begun to let them down, as old age took its harsh toll. Though still physically and mentally sound, Dan, 79, had battled prostate cancer and was being treated for high blood pressure and macular degeneration. Kitty’s health was far worse. At 78, she was hobbled by an arthritic condition that wracked her joints with pain. And last June, she’d been diagnosed with Alzheimer’s disease. The constant pain and accelerated dementia had robbed her of her spark, her distinctive
joie de vivre.
“I’ve lost her,” Dan told one of his daughters. The heartbroken husband and physician could not cure his own wife.
“I came home to find Kitty in the master bath,” he journaled the night before they died. “She had been there for who knows how long. She could not move. Her strength and balance are worse every day. When walking she can’t straighten up. … Kitty will not get better, for she continues a downward course both mentally and physically.”
As husband and wife, doctor and patient, the Gutes had devised a plan to end her inevitable decline.